Which best explains my 'friends' behaviour?

[sophiejoy]

I have a dilemma with a friend of mine. We get on v well, are attracted & care for one another. We've flirted in the past & said things that show we see one another as more than just friends who care for one another. Things have got a little difficult between us & we are keeping our distance. I believe that there are two possible scenarios that would explain what position he is in & how he sees me. I've listed these scenarios in the hope that you will look at one/both & express how you would react in this situation to help me determine which scenario his particular behaviour is more likened to: (he is aware that my marriage is unhappy & that I want to be with him).

Scenario 1: he is v attracted to me & has a strong connection with me but is already settled & not in the place to start something new but would love to just have sex with me, nothing more.

Scenario 2: he has become v close to me & has strong feelings. However, he is in a long term serious relationship with someone else who he loves.

In one/both scenarios, how would you react to the friend who has expressed deep feelings for you?

Many thanks

[HeartIsAching]

It really depends on the friend.

My wife's my (female) best friend. Was long before I got a shot at her.

[someguyintexas]

If she was married I would encourage her to repair her marriage and be a supportive friend even if I did want to get with her honoring the sanctity of marriage is more important than getting laid. If he is a friend then maybe that is why he is keeping his distance, he is being a friend. Unhappy marriage or not, you are married and I wouldn't touch you at all for any reason. I suggest you either repair your marriage or get the divorce before you start sleeping around... You married the guy you now call your husband for a reason, remember that reason and get it together. People are all to willing to drop a marriage, a relationship of any kind takes work to keep it going and keep it alive.