Originally Posted by
smackie9
Even tho she was honest, she has this policy, "Don't ask, don't tell". She knew it would have been a deal breaker for you. No matter how up front she seems to be with you now, doesn't confirm you can trust her. Words are easy to say, but actions speak louder. She did withheld this information from you, and in this case it is just as bad as lying. I do not think this is so innocent of her "oops I forgot to mention the fact I sleep over at other guy's places". What is disturbing is the fact she sees nothing inappropriate about it...that is your red flag. She's hardly mature enough to acknowledge boundaries when being in a committed relationship, so don't expect any real changes to be made here. There is a big jump in maturity from 19 to 23 even tho there is a 4 years age difference....she is just stepping into adulthood while you have been in it for awhile, this is why you are seeing issues here.
You two are on different pages here, and if you stay with her you will always have doubts....it's time to get out and find someone closer to your age that respects and knows what it means to have relationship boundaries.
Staying friends? what the hell for? You won't be able to move on properly and hell you need to get away from her or you will end up one of her sleep over lackies.