I don't feel aroused about her, I can't masturbate thinking of her

[FlaCooln]

Speaking on men's obsession with porn. I can see how it can desensitze some men from actual real women. I guess for me porn has always been a really poor substitute for the touch of a woman I cared/loved. Plus, those women (to me) are fake, unnatural, and I can't have an attachement to that at all. I have always looked as masterbation as more of just a release, kind of like taking a vitamin and for me it is VERY unfullfilling. So when I do/did watch porn it was more of a lets get this over with process, and not OMG I am all engrossed in XXX porn or whatever.

My GF does a way better job of getting me aroused and any orgasm I have with her FAR exceeds what I can acheive on my own. Thus, I don't masterbate when I am in a relationship. It also helps that I have a great new GF (finally someone normal w/o issues/baggage, super intelligent, and sexy/beatiful; yes I won the lottery lol).

As for you young man....I say find a nice girl who doesn't have a BF, get to know her, and then have PLENTY of safe sex with her.

[Azwraith]

Speaking on men's obsession with porn. I can see how it can desensitze some men from actual real women. I guess for me porn has always been a really poor substitute for the touch of a woman I cared/loved. Plus, those women (to me) are fake, unnatural, and I can't have an attachement to that at all. I have always looked as masterbation as more of just a release, kind of like taking a vitamin and for me it is VERY unfullfilling. So when I do/did watch porn it was more of a lets get this over with process, and not OMG I am all engrossed in XXX porn or whatever.

My GF does a way better job of getting me aroused and any orgasm I have with her FAR exceeds what I can acheive on my own. Thus, I don't masterbate when I am in a relationship. It also helps that I have a great new GF (finally someone normal w/o issues/baggage, super intelligent, and sexy/beatiful; yes I won the lottery lol).

As for you young man....I say find a nice girl who doesn't have a BF, get to know her, and then have PLENTY of safe sex with her.

Friend, I cannot stress this enough, but the problem has nothing to do with porn, or neither is porn itself.

[smackie9]

This what always happens when you mention the word "porn". Everyone is ao eager to hop on the "porn is an addiction and that's your problem" train. I'm kind of sick of it myself.

I totally understand what you are getting at but what you feel is normal. You are love sick and when you are love sick, it hurts and there is no room for feelings of passion. Not being able to be with them makes your heart heavy with sadness. That's why sexual interest takes a back seat.

[HeartIsAching]

Personally, I think the OP is having the same problem I did with my wife years ago - he's got her on a pedestal. Can't think that way about someone who's elevated to unrealistic heights.

[FlaCooln]

Friend, I cannot stress this enough, but the problem has nothing to do with porn, or neither is porn itself.

I know it doesn't have to do with porn...you previously said that. I was more talking to Mattiemae's comments about it. Thats why I directed my last line directly to you by saying "young man..."

But, looking back I can see how it would like it was directed towards you. Sorry for any confusion.

[Azwraith]

I know it doesn't have to do with porn...you previously said that. I was more talking to Mattiemae's comments about it. Thats why I directed my last line directly to you by saying "young man..."

But, looking back I can see how it would like it was directed towards you. Sorry for any confusion.

It's ok friend, don't worry.

This what always happens when you mention the word "porn". Everyone is ao eager to hop on the "porn is an addiction and that's your problem" train. I'm kind of sick of it myself.

I totally understand what you are getting at but what you feel is normal. You are love sick and when you are love sick, it hurts and there is no room for feelings of passion. Not being able to be with them makes your heart heavy with sadness. That's why sexual interest takes a back seat.

You said everything I needed to hear! Every single sentence of your post is correct! You finally understood what I was going through. Thank you so much!