Love Triangle: Please Help!

[BikerChick19]

I have several love issues I'm going to try to address in one question...here's basically what happened:

The 'biker scene' in my area is rather small, so everyone knows each other. I was dating a guy in one gang, then we broke up, then earlier today I had a sudden yearning for him and asked him to have sex with me casually (over the phone)...but he is out of town right now so I guess it'll happen when he gets back. Fast forward to later today, I met this guy from another gang who is quite awesome, and I'd love to start dating him, the problem is that he knows my ex...who I just asked to have sex with me. One thing led to another and I ended up agreeing to date this guy...so now there's a triangle where I'm in love with both guys. I still have VERY strong feelings for my ex, which is why I asked him to have sex with me, yet I like this new guy as well. Plus my ex has been going through a rough time lately and getting back together he said would cheer him up, which I'm glad to do.

I guess it wouldn't be a problem if the guys didn't both know each other and have several friends in common - I could just discreetly have sex with my ex, BEFORE I start officially dating the new guy - but that's cutting it kind of close, on the borderline of cheating, which will inevitably be found out about since they both know each other. So I'm kind of stuck.

On top of that, my best male friend (who is crushing hard on me) is mad at me now because he says I keep dating "those motorcycle douchebags" instead of him (he's a bit of a nerd...he's the type of guy my boyfriend(s) would have picked on in high school), so now my friendship is in shambles and I don't know how to restore his faith in me. He said he hoped for more from me.

On top of all of that is another problem: I tend to date a little far out of my league as far as age goes. I've just turned 20 and both men I'm dealing with are in their 30s and 40s: the same age as my father. Since I am in college and still live with my parents, they inquire about my boyfriends a lot, and I've been having to lie to them and tell them that they're boys from my class (which they aren't)...the only reason why I get away with it is because they still look youthful...but I've been thinking about what will happen if I finally marry one of these guys, then I'll eventually have to come clean about their ages. And I don't even know how to approach that. The only reason I'm thinking about it is because I've set a goal to be married by 25.


Well that's all my relationship problems, thank you guys for helping me with them! I just need advice as to what I should do about all these issues...

[TablesandChairs]

Getting back together will 'cheer him up' - what are you, a toy? Stop dating men your fathers age, for a start. Stop asking men to have sex with you 'casually' when they're an ex who you still have feelings for. Don't go from one bike member to the next...you'll get a reputation...they should be riding their bikes, not you.

You friend - 'the nerd' (a guy who has ambitions that go further than going around being a gang member, I'm guessing) is right...he might be biased and by no means do you need to start dating him too...but consider some of his advice.

Being single for a while isn't going to kill you; you don't owe these men anything; you're not there to cheer them up or whatever you think your role is. By all means, date older guys...but 40's? Come on.

[purple_roses]

I would say be SINGLE. So you can do whoever u want and really make a decision that's a smart one instead of jumping into a relationship when there's three different guys. That's not normal. A relationship should start off loyal and pure. Not full of sluttyness and confusion.
You sound desperate for a boyfriend and that's not a good place to be. I'd focus on myself if I were you instead of getting with some guy you don't even really like. Because u don't really like any of these guys if you have eyes and vagina for all of them.

[Wakeup]

Too bad they weren't in the same "gang." If they were, you could be the gang-bang chick of their particular club.

Why are you coming to a vanilla forum board with your non-vanilla problem? Don't you think you'd do better going to a biker forum where the chicks can relate to your lack of personal boundaries and the guys can relate to theirs?

[BikerChick19]

All of you guys are right.

Here's what I did...I let the new guy go and decided to just be friends and continue the casual relationship with my ex. The feelings are just too strong to let go...

I really don't want a bad reputation; I've only had like 3 boyfriends who were bikers; I just hope it doesn't get out that I begged my ex for sex...that looks pretty whorish...man, why did I do that? I was desperate...

[Wakeup]

Yet you're still going through with it? WTF?