My girlfriends ex died two years ago, but he remains a big part of her life. In fairness, they were friends for much longer than they were in a relationship. They were friends in high school, dated for a little bit (less than a year around the age of 20), then broke up and remained extremely close friends afterwards. She's 27 now and he died two years ago. She took his death extremely hard and still does. She continues to mention great times they used to have (as friends) and his pictures are all around her apartment. She remains very close with his family and intends to remain this way forever.
We've been dating for 6 months but have known each other for much longer. I love her so much and I know she feels the same way about me, but this situation really bothers me. I can't tell if I'm being selfish or normal to feel this way. I know they didn't date long at all compared to how long they were friends, but all I see when I see his picture is a guy that used to bang my girlfriend. I'm kind of a jealous person by nature (not over the top or anything like that) so I hate having to see that everywhere. He's been her phone background for two years so every time she opens her phone, I see his picture.
Am I being incredibly selfish here? I want to be considerate here. It bothers me to have to see the pictures all the time, but she lost a close friend. My feelings must be less than nothing compared to her loss. I haven't told her how I really feel about all this because I feel bad. Am I being a jealous little bitch that should get over this, or should I talk to her about how it bothers me that this guy is such a huge part of her life?