Hi, everyone!
Well, my situation is this: I know this girl about 3 years now. We both are 20 years old. Over the time, we grew really close together. You could say we became best friends, but I believe it's even more than that. And even though I liked her on and off all those years, recently my feelings became really strong.
Even though we spent a lot of time together before, since early February we have been going on a lot of dates (she does know my intentions) and all that, and we started to spend even more time together (there has been a week where we seen each other every single day). And mind you, we don't get tired of each other. I would say it's even opposite of that.
It seems like we have a real relationship: we know everything about each other, we can talk to each other when we are going through tough times or whenever we see each other, we walk holding hands. When we go to the movies, she can lay down on my shoulder (you know, small things). It's pretty much a relationship, except we don't kiss or have sex or anything like that.
We spend all this times together, she knows my intentions, she does show signs of attraction towards me, she misses me a lot (I study abroad but I still can come back home every 2-3 weeks since my college schedule allows that to happen). But it seems like she's afraid of commitment, at least that's what I think. See, I did not ask her to be together just yet because I believe it's just too soon (plus everything's getting better with every date).
She did not have a serious relationship before, just some boyfriends that never lasted longer than 2-3 weeks. Her reasoning was that she just gets tired of them and their company. Yesterday, we were talking about that on Skype and looks like she's used to everything being so great between us as friends, she's afraid that if we started dating and something went wrong (and we break up) we are not going to be present in each other lives any more. We didn't really get a chance to talk it out since it was really late and she went to sleep, but I did tell her that this won't happen and everything's going to be the same between us, just better.
Now my question is - should I talk it out with her again and if yes, what should I tell her? Or should I just forget about it, be with her, comfort her and with time this fear will pass? What do you all think?
Thank you! Every response is much appreciated!