she choose her ex ...

[martinez]

So i dated a girl about 1year, she pushed the relationship really fast, I could feel she was closed off a little emotionally.
First 6 months was beautiful, but then suddenly things start going wrong.. She started contacting her ex.. ofcorse I was frustrated
about that, more often we start quarrel.. we got broke for one month but then she come back, says she misses me and so.. okey, things was
good for now, on New year i was introduct with her family, they as wery happy about us, and wished all good things to us..
after 3 days i get sms from her.. She said that she actually dont love me and we need to broke up, but she wants be friends with me..
I was shocked about what happened, i really loved her, and unfourtunately still love.. 3 month r now from break up, last week
i saw on facebook that she and her ex is both at vacation together.. Looks like they together again, and i as nothing more
than rebound guy..
I feel so bad, and i cant move on, just cant.. i need some advice..

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You can move on, you're not trying. You're aware that you're just the rebound guy. Perhaps that was your only purpose in her eyes to begin with.

But she is back with her ex. That's a fact that doesn't look like it will change.

Anyone certainly deserves better than a partner who bounces back and forth, at your hearts expense.

Bear the process of grieving. Cry your tears, pack away or destroy the momentos. Write her a letter that really explains how you feel. Then burn it, don't send it to her. You'll benefit more from that than you know.

Another love will come in your life, but next time, before it gets serious, find out about her last relationship. Ask questions, in person, not text or email. You'll know if she's over it by the answers, and the emotion she delivers them. If her heart is not done with it, then she can't share it with you. Don't offer yours, it's a recipe for failure.

Remember, most relationships don't work out long term. Be aware of this fact, and know that the possibility of making it work is little or nothing when hearts are still tied to the past. This girl simply can't make up her mind. And beware of any woman that pushes a relationship too quickly.

As for moving on, take the steps. Talk about it to close friends and family. Stay busy, eat right, exercise. Volunteer in any capacity.

Time will erase this pain. Keep the lessons learned, and don't ignore them in your future romantic pursuits.

Sucks, but that's your only path out of this darkness.

Best wishes...