Here is my list of stuff I want to talk to my husband about. I would like guys opinions on if it is too confrontational or not?

I'm having a hard time getting him to talk about our sex life & had an idea that if I present him with my list when I next iniate the conversation, it may help both of us talk about it???

OK, here goes.......................

I don't know what turns u on anymore.

I don't know what sort of porn u watch. I would like to try stuff u like

U have a harder time 'finishing' when we have sex

It doesn't seem as intimate anymore
I want to feel comfortable enough to tell u what I want in the broom but I don't atm. I'm hoping we can fix that.

It feels mechanical & not intimate sometimes

I initiate all the time now, you never do.

**I want sex more & u masturbate instead that says to me that it IS me as there is nothing wrong with your sex drive. U still want it, just not with me.
**I feel like u prefer rubbing one out, to having sex with me & it makes me feel like shit

U seem to have given up on ever making me orgasm. Its going to happen if we can talk about sex & I can't wait for when it does

I have tried suggesting new things in the bedroom (d/l pirates, make own video, record each other) but u don't seem to show any interest.

When we do have great sex its awesome, is it wrong that I want more of it?

I love seeing you turned on, but it feels like I don't do that for u anymore, I wish I knew what I could do to make it more exciting for you again like it used to be

I miss the intimacy we used to have & I really think we could improve on it

I can't think of anything better than for both of us to be totally satisfied with our sex life

I'm not trying to make u uncomfortable or guilty by talking about it, I feel just as uncomfortable as u

You say you don't like sex at night, but will rub one out when I'm asleep. That makes me feel like shit, put yourself in my shoes.
I also feel like shit when u rub one out after we have had sex. when would u prefer we have sex?

I want to be what u think about to get u turned on & when we have sex.

I feel I have tried spicing it up with random bj & asking for head ( as u don't offer like u used to).

*** (copied from net) sexual time you do have together to be almost like a sanctuary.., sacred in a way.., something to look forward to.., not run away or stray from.., and definitely not substitute with masturbating.