Did he do it on purpose?

[johanna1]

Hi everyone,

I have met someone on match and went out for coffee. I didn't feel the "spark" with him. What I felt was more like friendship than romantic. However, he seems a very kind, sensitive, good-heart man. Our conversation was very good and we talked about a lot of things. He didn't seem to do much eye contact with me until the end of the date. At the end of the date he said he liked me and wants to go out for dinner. We supposed to meet last Saturday but he texted me 10 minutes before we supposed to meet and he told me he has Diabetes type 1 and went into shock and went to the hospital. I knew from our conversation over coffee that he will be at this parents house clearing their garage. So on Saturday he told me that he probably overdid it and end up in the hospital. I offered my help like a ride home but he said he is with his brother who will give him a ride home. He really apologize and wants to find another night to go out. I texted him yesterday as a "follow up" and see how he feels and he said he was feeling better but he didn't mention anything about a date. This morning, he has texted me telling me he went to work and wished me :a happy Monday". Do you think I should believe him or do you think it was a way for him to "get out" of the date? Also, do you think I felt more like friendship rather than romantic...is that a bad sign? Should I still see him? Or do you think that feeling friendship first, it is better because relationships are founded on friendships??? Please advice!
Thank you!

[Gladimeir15]

I think he has a reason why he is making excuses to you. He has something that he did not tell you. I think it is better to talk to him when both of you are available for conversation. You have to know him better before involving into relationships to reduce risk in problems of relationship.

[johanna1]

"He has something he did not tell me." What do you have in mind? Like married? He texted me yesterday and he said he wants to redo the date...and when I accepted...I haven't heard from him anymore...so not sure...

[TheEvilJester]

That is possible, but I don't think I would necessarily jump to that conclusion so quickly.

On the other hand, I would more so say if you really don't feel you are that into him, it may just be best if you are honest with him. I mean, unless you think that maybe that is just your initial feeling and it could possibly change if you date again. If you do sincerely think you COULD like him, then why not give it a shot on at least one more date?

On the other hand, if you really just aren't feeling it, you'd be better to let him know that and break it off soon. Heck, if he'd be open to being just friends, he can feel free to offer that, but you don't want to lead him on.

Is he making up bogus excuses because he doesn't really want to date you? Maybe. To be honest, I doubt it, though. He probably wouldn't bother to set up a second date, much less continue to contact you after having to cancel in the first place, if he wasn't interested. I mean, believe me, I COULD be wrong. There are people who would do something like that. Frankly, if he is doing that, it won't take you long to figure that out.

So, don't worry too much about whether or not HE is still interested. Figure out whether or not YOU are. If you aren't, then why does it matter whether he is or not? If you are, then just continue to pursue it. If he keeps jerking around and never seems to commit to meeting up, that is all the sign you need.