I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months, with both have children so it is a blended relationship. The children have been the top priority and we make sure they are happy. He is a good guy, great at communicating and great at organising times to see me.

I do have jealousy issues which I have worked very hard to overcome. These have stemmed from previous relationships. I have never shown signs of jealousy to him, if I feel that way I keep it very hidden.

He has a very close mate who is female and they see each other a lot, they play music together and have a gig coming up. I am alright with them catching up I have even become friends with her and they have both been very clear about where their feelings lie. Sometimes when they are jamming they get drunk together, this makes me feel uncomfortable, I never say anything. I'm not sure if that is mine issue because of the jealousy or if it's inconsiderate on their part.

They have a practice session coming up which they have invited people to. I was going to originally supply the nibblies. Anyway I went over one night with beers as he asked and he was there jamming, during which they had gone and bought alcohol and he didn't want the beers I had brought. They said listen to the new songs we played tonight and they played them. I was very quite and probably looked very disinterested, I was upset that he hadn't told me about not bothering to get alcohol and felt a bit used. He has also said in the past that my suggestions with their music was invalid so I try to not say too much and that he doesn't like when I look at him while his playing. Nothing was said on the night and I said I was tired when he asked if everything was ok. A few days later he said that I was uninvited to their practice session and he told his friend that I was acting weird, then he said he didn't want me to be a part of the music side of his life. I was also uninvited to Thursday dinners because they jam afterwards. I was really hurt and upset by this and went on to explain my feelings from that night. He took them all in but hasn't said anything again about if I am welcome now or not. The only time I asked about thursdays he said he will now spend them with his son instead.

In saying that he doesn't want me to be a part of the music side of his life he still talks to me about it all and sends me recordings of their practices. I don't offer any criticism anymore just say that it all sounds good. I am so confused.

I don't know where to go from here. I'm not sure where I stand regarding this. Whether I accept this or if I am being treated unfairly. I feel embarrassed that he doesn't want me at the practice session anymore. Do I have a right to ask? If so how do I bring it up without him getting upset?