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Sadly, you've probably blown it.

Get on with it and forget about her. If she contacts you, brilliant. If she doesn't, that's life.

Would it help if I were to rephrase the question without psycho-analytical terms? I believed using them would provide clarity, but I realize that the question I had wanted to pose was muddled...

I've just begun reading about co-dependence and BPD and am wondering if it's possible for one co-dependent BPD to be in a relationship with another one?

It strikes me as odd in that the...

Out of curiosity, you've got a Swedish flag under your profile. Is that accurate?

My friend and I had a bizarre encounter with two Swedish girls two years ago where we ended up being stood up as...

I don't really enjoy kissing or have any desire to do unless I'm properly attracted to a woman emotionally. I'll still do it, but it feels like a chore if the attraction's purely physical. If...

So you're 24 now and still wound up over this?

Honestly lad, you were being a complete creep, though I doubt you've been the only one. She basically gave you a fake internet pleasantry here and...

That's not entirely fair, now is it? Pain's relative and predicated on one's experiences. If he had suffered something worse before, he'd not be whinging about this. Thus, at the moment, all he...

Summer fling chatted me on Skype for the first time in 2 months. Talked for almost 2 hours and it all seemed normal and not at all awkward. She brought up the summer and apologized for being afraid...

I did the same thing. I didn't see a doctor until I was 25 and that was only because I knew something was wrong when I couldn't even do ordinary things. It's made a huge difference.

I'm not saying...

Have you seen a psychiatrist or been diagnosed with depression? I've gone through basically exactly what you've described, including the artistic bit. I can't write or play music anymore.
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If they never really had a chat about what the relationship was meant to be that could be the case. He and she may've thought they were both on the same page though it appears they were not.

We...

I go through this as well. Some days I just haven't got anything left for anyone else and not really even enough for myself.

To the originating poster, maybe she's not sure how to show you...

In other words, if he's ok with being used, you'll use him? Not being critical of you, just summarizing.

Ladies,

What does 'I don't know what I want' mean? What are you feeling, what's going through your head, what's happening in your life when you've used this as an excuse or explanation? Assume...

If you're generally attracted wankers, then yeah, they'd bugger off after a few dates if they realized they'd be made to wait. By the way what 'clues' are you giving away during the first date that...

Different expectations and definitions of romance. What starts out as nice may be misconstrued as being romantic. Carry on down the same path and you may end up further and further from it.

It's...

On Sunday night she chatted me on Skype while I was asleep. She asked how I was doing and after a few minutes realized I wasn't actually at the computer. So she said she wanted to hear some news...

I always do but I only sleep with people if I've got an emotional connection with them. Appearance alone doesn't do it for me.

Sometimes things happen without an explanation. If you've not got anything invested in it just forget it. Weirder things will happen.

Women and men are not the same. I've known loads of women who can be incredibly close without fear of ever crossing any line. Once you're deemed 'friend' you'll never been anything more.

She had...

Yeah, those are all excuses.

Perhaps it's an issue with your interpretation of what 'being nice' entails.

(I hope this is the correct forum)

I'm curious if anyone else sometimes finds that you're exhibiting the very same behaviours you find unattractive in others. For example, are you turned off by...

Not family friends at all.

We both did a year on exchange in France about two or three years ago. That's how we 'know' eachother. We had mutual friends and went out several times in groups...

That's the nature of our relationship: we're really close. We talk on virtually a daily basis and I go round to her's several nights a week for tea. She's one of my best friends and this is how it...