Girl I've been dating went silent with no explanation

[Hutch77]

I've been dating this girl for just under 2 months. It started when she requested me as a friend on FB, we had gone out once years ago when we were both younger. We had an immediate connection, and we both confessed that we both had crushes on eachother and regretted not going out again back then. We began texting throughout each day and talking on the phone most evenings. We live 100 miles apart, so the first time we could go out was the following weekend. It was the best first date I've ever had, and it ended with a kiss and her asking when she could see me again. We continued to talk, text, and went out whenever we could make time, each time being better than the last.

She told me from the beginning that she didn't date much because she worked 3 jobs, had class several times a week, and has 2 kids at home, but that she really liked me and had no problem making time to be together as much as possible.

Over new years weekend we spent every evening together, and I slept at her house a couple of the nights. We had so much fun talking, laughing, watching movies, making out, etc. We talked about where we were at in our relationship, she confessed that she couldn't believe how much the more time she spends with me the more she likes me, and it scared her a little because she had planned on taking things slower because she didn't want to mess anything up. I told her I felt the same way, and we both agreed we were happy with the way things were going.

About 2 1/2 weeks ago was the last time we were together, I went to see her since she was flying out of town for the weekend to visit her sister and it would be another two weeks before we would be able to see eachother again. We went and got takeout, then drove to a hilltop where we ate, talked about a job offer she got and was having some stress over, talked about kids, laughed and joked, made out, everything was awesome. I told her about a concert coming up for valentines, which was out of town and included a room for the weekend. She said she definitely wanted to go and was way excited about it. The next day she called on her way home from work as usual. The following day was when she flew out for her weekend trip, and since I hadn't heard from her till that evening, I sent her a text saying "hey hope your flight went ok and you are having a good time". She replied with "it was ok, just getting ready for bed". So everything still fine, right. The next day I posted a pic on FB, which I noticed that she "liked", and later that day she posted a pic so I "liked" it. This is something that we both often did. Later that evening I was looking at my page, and noticed that her "like" was no longer showing, so I went to her profile and it wouldn't allow me to view it. Clearly I had been blocked. I thought maybe it was an accident, and since I didn't want to bug her with family if she was busy, I texted "hey are you busy". She relied with "yes". So I replied nevermind Ill just talk to you later, and didn't text or anything until that Monday. I still hadn't heard anything, so I texted "hey haven't heard from you is everything ok?". She replied with "just busy, heading to class". I texted "hey can you talk?", but didn't get a reply so I dropped it.

I waiting almost 2 weeks until her birthday, and texted her happy birthday. She replied with thank you, I texted back a little joke we laughed about one time when we were together, and she replied with lol and a random comment. That was 3 days ago.

So my question is, what's the best thing for me to do? I can see her having cold feet because things were moving so fast, I can see her being overwhelmed with trying to fit a relationship into an already hectic schedule, and I've wondered if I appeared clingy by "bugging" her when she was busy with family. We had a thing over Christmas when she had a house full of family and I texted her to say hi then got no reply right away so I asked her if she was mad at me. We talked about it later and she said she was overwhelmed and just because she didn't text me right then, she would when she got a minute. I told her all she needed to do was say she was busy and I am fine with waiting. We both apologized and everything was fine, but maybe she felt like I was doing the same thing again and I ticked her off.

No matter what is going on, I do know we had, hopefully still have, something really great, but I don't know what I should do. Should I text her with "hey when are you going to tell me whats going on"? Should I leave her alone and wait for her to contact me? Clearly something is up because she has never waited this long. Girls, please chime in on this, what do you guys want us guys to do in this situation? Everyone has told me I just need to move on and she will come back if it was meant to be, but I don't want her to think I don't care. I'm just out of a divorce, so I've considered maybe she is testing me to see if I'm really interested in her or just using her as a rebound. My best friend told me to give her some more time then text to see if she wants to hang out some time, the intention being to start things slow again. I know without a doubt that we were both very into eachother.

So, please voice all input. If anyone has gone through the same thing, please share...

[Wakeup]

Why not just text her: "Are we on for this weekend?" And then see what she does with that.

[basilandthyme]

I strongly disagree with your best friend's advice to text her. Seems to me like there's been far too much texting going on already. Have you realised that if you had been talking in real conversation, you'd probably have an answer as to what's going on and why? Text is great for asking someone to grab some milk on their way over - but it's not a foundation for running a relationship.

That being said, it does appear she's lost interest. If she's testing you, then run a mile: relationships are too important to spend with people who play games.

[Wakeup]

Okay then text her "Are we on for this weekend and should I pick up milk on the way?"

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[TablesandChairs]

Well, I'm female and I can't really relate to the behaviour. If I have a problem with someone, I'll tell them. If the problem is external, I'll still tell them. If I want to discontinue the relationship, I'll tell them. Why? Because it's decent and mature.

This woman has 2 kids - I'm assuming she's not a little girl. She knows how to communicate and I'm sure she's well aware that her silence is making you feel shitty, especially since you'd established a bond/a regular pattern of communicating. She's gone as far as blocking you on Facebook without explanation.

You've only known her for 2 months and that's usually a very honeymoon-esque period where you may not totally get the full picture of how someone is; their issues, their patterns...peoples' uglier sides are generally concealed during the initial stages...so I'd be wondering whether this might be normal for her.

Either way, you'll thrown the ball in her court. You could send another message asking when would be an okay time to catch up next. If you get an ambiguous answer...I'd probably let this one go.

[jenniferaniston]

You should text her or call her don't stop your effort if she is testing you..Make her believe that you are the right person for her and you really care for her by that she will realize her fault that he is doing wrong by ignoring you.

[Hutch77]

Thanks everyone for your input!! So just a little update, her birthday was last week, so I texted her happy birthday, she replied with "thank you", I replied with a little joke that we had together, and she replied with an lol and a short comment. 5 days later I had meetings in the town where she lives, and I decided I was done wondering what she was thinking and what the right or wrong way of approaching her is, so I texted her that I had been thinking about her and would like to talk and that I would be in town if she wanted to go get coffee or something. She replied that the first day she was way busy, but maybe the next. I never did hear from her, but it looks to me like she isn't completely done, probably just super busy. I still cant get past how she never had an issue communicating with me before, but maybe getting cold feet on top of it all is what has her being so standoffish. Who knows! At least now I've made the effort to show that I'm sincere in my intentions and am still interested. Hopefully it came across the way I intended, respectful of her schedule but that I still want to see her. Hopefully it didn't appear that my only intention was to get an explanation for the silence, but I don't think it did.

So, any more comments are appreciated!!

[basilandthyme]

so I texted her that I had been thinking about her and would like to talk and that I would be in town if she wanted to go get coffee or something. She replied that the first day she was way busy, but maybe the next. I never did hear from her, but it looks to me like she isn't completely done, probably just super busy.

Nope, she's done. If she was keen to see you, she'd make time. And if she had courtesy, she would have either pencilled in a time with you for the following day - or at least called to say she can't make it.

Sorry.