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    Getting to know a girl at work

    Ok, I know people will say "Don't shit where you eat" blah blah blah, but I need to do this.
    A lot of people I know met their SO at work and it turned out well.

    Anyway, there's this quiet girl which I really want to know.
    We work in different departments and our job scope are not-related.
    Problem is, in our office, everybody keep to themselves and don't mingle, which is why it's so difficult to know her through others (which is the usual method).

    We've made a bit of small talk only once when the company went to lunch together (a once-in-a-blue-moon thing).

    See the diagram below:



    When I walk past her cubicle every morning, I would say hi and she would smile and greet back etc, but that's it.
    The office environment is so quiet that if we talk, others would hear what we're talking.

    She's more relaxed and open to talking outside of the office, based on my observations.
    Vibes are really good, but then, she's like this with most people. In any case....


    How do you guys suggest I make the next move?
    My idea is to "grease her wheels" daily by saying hi and making small talk now and then to make her feel more comfortable with me first, but I need some sort of breakthrough.

    In the past, in previous companies, people would contact each other on skype during work and relationships are built from there, but in this company, everyone is an island.
    I feel asking for her number at this time is too fast as we barely know each other and it's too obvious I'm hitting on her (I don't even know if she has a boyfriend).

    So, what I should do now is continue to sit it out and wait for a chance to come (the once-in-a-blue-moon company lunch), then give it my all on that opportunity?

    Usually my method for getting to know girls in social circles (not total strangers pickup) is:

    1) A bit of small talk
    2) Generic questions to "feel out" her interests / hobbies etc to look for something in common
    3) Connect, build rapport and get number (which always succeeds cos' the girl already know me by then)

    Any tips?
    Tks!
    Last edited by Nikar; 19-02-15 at 07:17 PM.

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    I suggest you start passing on notes to her so you can communicate in office with letters.
    Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will

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