need to choose between two girls

[fear]

So, i usually solve my own problems but I really need help on this one. Well first off, hi this is probably my first time posting on a non automobile forum. I'm 19 and i never had a girlfriend before. its not that I couldn't, not to sound cocky and all but I've actually been asked out by many girls and gone out on dates with many. However, I've never really i guess, "loved" a girl. if love actually does exist. or maybe i'm just scared of commitment. so anyways, I've been like this until a couple of months ago, always just playing around with girls and never getting serious. but reccently I have started getting very interested in a girl that I knew for about a year now. I have never thought of her this way but after I started talking to her more, i can't stop thinking about her. But due to some circumstances, we can't start dating until maybe about 2-3 years later(I know she likes me through her friend). I was frustated and mad about this at first, but was willing to wait that long for the one girl that i've ever had these type of feelings for. I even decided I wouldn't go out on dates with anyone unless it was her. but a couple of weeks ago, i met this other girl, through a close friend of mine. she's his close friend and I probably spent about 20-25 hours with her in 3 days(with a group of 3-4 ppl). and I think I really like her too(Its really confusing because i never really liked a girl but suddenly there's two now. could it be I'm trying to get over the frustation of not being able to go out with the other girl by fooling myself into thinking i like someone else as much?). and my friend told me she likes me(the one who I met her through). I know that if i wait too long, I'll lose this girl i just met, but i can't get myself to do anything much because of my feelings for the other girl(the one i knew for a year). I'm so torn between the two. they are so similar in their personalities and the type of person they are. depending on looks, I know a lot of guys will flame me for this but i really could care less. I can't sleep because of this. I thought once I found a girl I really liked, it would be simple. but this happened. i really need advice/help/anything!! if u need any more details just ask i'll answer them to the best of my ability. any questions i can answer i'll answer. unless it'll reveal the identities of any of the girls or me. wow i sound pathetic... never in my life did i think i would ask other people for help on girls. well I'm desperate and confused cause i've never felt this way before. thanks in advance!

[vashti]

You are too young (IMO) to wait 2-3 years for some girl who may or may not like you in the end. I think dating is fine; your life needs not stop because she can't/won't date.

[Taryn]

Good point there vash, and i agree. 2-3 years is a long wait, especially if you decline seeing anyone else in that time. just because you go out with her, that does not make you disloyal, as you and her are not even a couple yet

[Gribble]

Who says you need to choose?

[fear]

You are too young (IMO) to wait 2-3 years for some girl who may or may not like you in the end. I think dating is fine; your life needs not stop because she can't/won't date.

2-3 years is a long wait, especially if you decline seeing anyone else in that time. just because you go out with her, that does not make you disloyal, as you and her are not even a couple yet

both good points. its just i never really liked someone before. Maybe its cause I’m greedy. I don’t wanna stop liking either of them. I feel like if I start getting closer with one, I’m getting further away from the other.

Lol gribble, I wish I didn’t have to.

[comp_lex]

You don't necessarily have to choose, or at least your choice need not be definitive: until you can date your first girl, nothing binds you to her, so you can date the new girl. And in 2-3 years you have time galore to figure out whether she's the love of your life and so you won't regret your choice, or she's not what you want anyway, in which case you'll probably break up and maybe actually can start dating your old girl by then.

[fear]

lol everyone seems to be saying the same thing. guess it only seemed like a hard decision for me. well guess i'll listen to u guys nd try dating the new girl. lucky for her =) lol. and I love that poem by WB Yeats comp_lex. "He wishes for the cloths of heaven". definitely one of my favorite. those last three lines moved me so much when i first read them.