Hi all,
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year.Recently,we're experiencing a bumpy part of our relationship that I hope the kind people here can give me some advice.
Recently,my boyfriend is experiencing some financial troubles.He has saved up some money and invested that money in a venture,but unfortunately that investment failed and he lost all the savings.Money is pretty tight for him right now.
I have a wedding that I have to attend in another city next weekend,and I invited him to come along with me.He is not acquainted with this friend of mine,but I thought it'd be nice if he wants to take a break.But since money is pretty tight for him right now,he said he couldn't go because he couldn't afford to pay for the ticket and accommodation. So I said,ok I'll go myself.He got upset with me because he thought I would volunteer to treat him to this trip.He said it should be pretty obvious that that's the thing a loved one would do for one another.
Now I know that he's experiencing some financial troubles and if I want him to come along,I'd have to pay for it.But I don't feel comfortable paying a trip for him.I just don't feel that a woman should be paying for a man.Is this an immature and selfish way of thinking?Should I be more understanding of his situation and be less old fashioned?
Throughout our dating we've always gone 50-50.He has never asked me to pay anything for him except in this situation.But I'm afraid if I start paying for him this time,in the future he would depend on me too much financially.I don't think he's that type of person,but ...
So,I'd love to hear your advice!Thank you all and a good day to you!