The Age Factor

[Angelofstorm]

Hello Everyone!

Haven't posted in a while, some personal problems and whatnot.

I'll cut to the chase. The age factor. Everyone knows what that is. If your age is a few years older or younger than your crush, what should you do? Is it right?

My story...

[Btw, I'm 14]

I go to a private club for badminton playing and I can hold my own. So a few months ago, a young girl started this sport and her father asked if I could rally with her. I accepted. Along the months that led to this day, we became good friends, often partners for mixed doubles and whatnot.
Anyways, back on subject, she is now 12 and I am 14. I have developed a close bond with her, but I'm worried about our age difference.

Should I continue to develop a relationship with her or just drop it?

[anachronistic]

haha, cute. no, that is not a huge age difference, just be aware that most girls are very immature that age and you will probably get your heart broken if you look for love.

but hey, there is nothing wrong with being friends. go ahead and be her friend, perhaps later in your lifetime when you and she are a few years older, you'll date

[vashti]

I think your biggest problem will be whether or not her parents approve of such a young girl "dating", assuming that is what you had in mind. I'm sure you are a nice boy, but I wouldn't allow it if she were my daughter, due to her age.

[anachronistic]

I think your biggest problem will be whether or not her parents approve of such a young girl "dating", assuming that is what you had in mind. I'm sure you are a nice boy, but I wouldn't allow it if she were my daughter, due to her age.

i can see what you were talking about 3 years ago, y'old fart.

i started dating when i was a freshman in high shcool. quite frankly, i wish i wasn't so desperate to get with somebody then.

[Angelofstorm]

I think your biggest problem will be whether or not her parents approve of such a young girl "dating", assuming that is what you had in mind. I'm sure you are a nice boy, but I wouldn't allow it if she were my daughter, due to her age.

Now that you mention it Vashti, I never thought of that although I should have. Thanks for telling me that, I might've forgotten...

To be honest, I'd probably do the same if I was the girl's father.

I guess we should stay friends for now and just see how everything turns out in the future.

[Junket]

Don't worry yourself with things like that for at least another two years. That's what I say.

[Mathias]

haha, cute. no, that is not a huge age difference, just be aware that most girls are very immature that age and you will probably get your heart broken if you look for love.

but hey, there is nothing wrong with being friends. go ahead and be her friend, perhaps later in your lifetime when you and she are a few years older, you'll date

Dude, he's 14.

Go have fun, kid. Don't worry about the age, and just don't get too involved.

You know what? **** it. Learn the hard way--go have fun. Seriously.

[Mathias]

Don't worry yourself with things like that for at least another two years. That's what I say.

I disagree with this. As long as she's interested, why the hell shouldn't he? Puppy love rocks, and it's something he'll always remember no matter what happens.

What's so wrong with that?

[Angelofstorm]

Hey Matthias! Haven't seen you in a while. How've you been?

Yeah maybe I should play around but like Vashti said, its moreover the parents that I'm worried about. I also fully understand their concern because girls really shouldn't be dating at around 12 years. Maybe I'll just "let it be" for a coupla, then see what its turned out to be.

[Junket]

What's so wrong with that?

You're clearly looking at this from his perspective.

Sure, why shouldn't he have fun?

But when it's at the expense of another person, which this may or may not be. Then it's not so cool.

12 years old?

Yeah, if I were her dad...

[Angelofstorm]

You're clearly looking at this from his perspective.

Sure, why shouldn't he have fun?

But when it's at the expense of another person, which this may or may not be. Then it's not so cool.

12 years old?

Yeah, if I were her dad...

I'm totally behind you o_o

When I actually think about, its rather disgusting for me to like a girl at that age. Makes me sick sometimes.

[Mathias]

You're clearly looking at this from his perspective.

Sure, why shouldn't he have fun?

But when it's at the expense of another person, which this may or may not be. Then it's not so cool.

12 years old?

Yeah, if I were her dad...

It's not like they're going to go off having sex.

It's cute, innocent crap. If it isn't, then sure, there's a problem.

[vashti]

I'm totally behind you o_o

When I actually think about, its rather disgusting for me to like a girl at that age. Makes me sick sometimes.

There is nothing wrong with you, and it isn't at all disgusting. You can't help who you are attracted to, but you CAN help how you behave. I'm sure she would be flattered, and her parents might even think it is cute that a boy likes their daughter, but that doesn't mean they will allow her to date you. It is their job to protect her from teenage boys.

[Angelofstorm]

True enough Vashti. Maybe I should wait until she's like 16?

[DoesntMatter]

It is their job to protect her from teenage boys.

This is true. Today at school (2nd day on campus!) some guy rolled up in a car and shouted to a girl and her parents "You should have sent your daughter to Dartmouth because I'm going to **** her". They were too surprised to do anything. I felt so bad for them, they were too surprised to do anything. Good thing they didn't say that to my dad, he would have thrown them into a gorge.

But back to the main point... You don't gotta wait until you are 16, it sounds like you harmlessly like her. Like the others said as long as you aren't planning on doing anything a 12 year old shouldn't, no big deal. If you want to date her though, you might want to wait ilke a year or so.