I remembered when I first came here I read a few posts before asking you guys anything. In my first post ("absence makes the heart grow fonder.....right?") I mentioned that I read you guys' past posts and trusted your advice. I had also said dont be too harsh cuz I read a couple lol but I said to be straight up. I hate when they come on and say they accept any advice and turn around and get mad when any advice is given. I still wuv visiting this site every day.
..::.*Love is giving someone the ability to break your heart but trusting them not to*.::..
There is no way that my post about EAs could have been interpreted as anything other than polite & to the point. This is just an example of someone not really wanting advice, only looking for what he wanted to hear.
Oh well. Some ppl just need to learn the hard way. And when ppl lash out like that from advice on an anonymous forum, its usually a sign that the target *was* hit. Something went in; he just didn't like how it made him feel. Shrug.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
It seems like more and more people are doing this now. They aren't coming here for advice. They're coming here in hopes that the majority will be there to reinforce their beliefs. God forbid anyone actually disagree with what the asshole is doing or offer him another perspective.
I don't chase, I replace.
It's been that way since I came here.
In fact, I think we're due for some old fart to come in looking for justification to fool around with an underaged girl or vice versa.
God, so atrocious in the Old Testament, so attractive in the New--the Jekyl and Hyde of sacred romance.
-Mark Twain
If people are good only because they fear punishment and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
-Albert Einstein
It is my opinion that most ppl already know the answer to their issue before they post. They are simply looking for honest reinforcement. Its especially important for ppl like the OP, who are in denial, to know how the situation looks objectively.
Its not usually pleasant, tho. Hence the tendency for ppl like the OP to 'shoot the messenger'. Was Gribble and some others harsh in their assessment? Mbe, but that doesn't make them any less right. And its not like THEY are the ones chasing after a married woman. Its funny how ppl like the OP want to transfer *their* guilt onto someone completely removed from what is their own problem.
If the OP wants to be treated with kid gloves like a counsellor would, then he should pay the $$$ to be coddled by a professional. Don't come to a free forum, next time.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
It was maybe my fault? Young people take a lot of offense at being told that no, they AREN'T mature enough to handle certain situations.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh