Well, I'm an international student in US and I am graduating from master's in engineering this December. I always had compliments from everyone for being quite attractive for an engineer.
I had been dating this guy for 1.5 years. He seemed like he loved me and his friends also told me so. When he got drunk he would always ask me to marry him. His friends back where he is from love me. They actually message me to spend time all together. His best friend,Nick told me about how much he talks about me and Nick also said that I'm the only gf he particularly liked.
I started my last semester. 2 months passed by and I would get upset because I couldn't find a job due to several factors such as the economic crisis, me needing sponsorship... So one day he actually asked me to be his "marital wife" but this time he was sober)
Now after this he didn't do anything about it. In the next weeks I said "if you don't want to do this it's fine but please don't waste my time." He cried and said he'll do something but never did...It happened one last time. This time he took me to breakfast and we talked. He said" I'm not gonna cry anymore and I'm gonna do something about it. He asked me how much my parents could send me and we both could get jobs...etc."
Now that was the last one. Finally one day I said "I really want to do this. So I want us to sleep at our places, which will give you time to think about things. See if you want to do it. I said it's ok if you don't but I don't have any time left." . he cried his eyes out i did too. he was leaving he said he will talk to someone more experienced, to his parents.
Soo he left. He asked me to hang out with him and his friends couple of times. I said I can't because I'm really upset and won't be myself. " So the next day(saturday) he hang out with his friends. he texted me saying babe, sweets and etc.. that night i went to sleep at a friends. We have a cat together so I said " Could you please take him I won't be at home tonight.I love you" . He texted me back saying " I will. Love you too"
Next day I said I will stop by to see our cat and him sometime the next day. And....I didn't . I didn't call or text him for the next two days so he didnt either.
I finally called him no answer. texted him no answer. The next day again i called him no answer. and i texted him and said " are you serious? if you don't want to talk to me at least be a man and tell so i can say i'm single" he answered back " sorry. i didn't know i hurt you so much. i will stop by and grab all my stuff. i'm really sorry again."
He came in he looked fine. this is the conv.
me- were you trying to ignore me or did you seriously forget about me in 2 days?
him- to be honest with you. i was fine being single. i had fun hanging out with all those people. didn't you have fun with the girls?
me- yes i did but that doesn't mean i forgot about you. Can you tell me you don't love me anymore?
him- i don't know what love is anymore. i mean i care about you.
me- so you just want to let me go
him- don't say it like that. but i guess that is the situation in this case. i'm not ready to be married. i have to pick myself up.
me- i got accepted to phd.
him " why didn't you tell me earlier?"
me- " what would be the difference, you still want to let me go."
him - i'm a **** up anyway. you're a beautiful intelligent girl. i know there will be all those guys trying to get with you."
then he called his friend to help him carry stuff. i begged him to stay. he said he will call me later. he was leaving and saw that i was upset. and said " at least you're not crying. come give me a hug." i kissed him. he walked away. i said " say you don't. and made a little heart." he smiled and left.
i texted him " so single now?." he said " i guess thats the better choice now"
i called and asked " can you tell me you don't love me."
him- i don't know
me- what is it? you love me but not in love with me?
him- yes. i love you but i'm not in love with you.
me- how can it happen in 2 days?
him- i dont know.you kicked me out of your house. you're not the same person any more anyways. you're not the happy girl i know. you are upset. i wish you told me earlier that you got into phd.
his phone died. texted me saying he will call me back. been 3 days. nothing duh!. i left some food and a toy for the cat at his door when i knew he was not there. still nothing. don't know if he got them or not.
i contacted his friend and he told me to hold on and he didnt know what really happened between us but he thought the world of me. and that he's a proud guy and he can only talk to him in person in 10 days.
SORRY. IT'S VERY LONG BUT I WOULD APPRECIATE IT IF YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS. I HAD COUPLE OF GUYS ASK ME OUT ALREADY. BUT I DONT KNOW. IT'S EASIER TO GET OVER I GUESS BUT I WANT TO BE SURE.
Also he was in the PhD program his prof didnt want him. he was supposed to graduate this semester also but he realized that he can't.
and he doesnt like being confronted by problems. he just ignores them if he can. oh he also said he had been drinking and thats how he solves his problems!
i just have a hard time believing he forgot EVERYTHING in two days!! If thats the case i dont know what to believe anymore. I think i am losing my faith in love.
Everybody thought he loved me. It was such a surprise. I appreciate an honest opinion.
Thank you soo much. let me know what you think and what i should do? And I want to see my cat but not ready to see him yet.