just friends.

[Bo]

So there's this guy we'll call him m and i've known him for about 2 and a half years now? i met him in one of my classes and even though he graduated about 2 years ago we still kept in touch. It's actually pretty complicated but i'll try to make it as short as possible, i've always kind of had an on and off crush on m but i had/have a bf that i absolutely adore. Anyhow so after m graduated we stopped talking for a while but i gave him a call once after my bf and i had a brief break up. I was REALLY upset and I called him specifically because i was sick of hearing the same ppl tell me the same things and m always had a different perspective than most of the guys i knew. So after i called him he said he would pick me up the next day to talk more since he was busy at work and couldn't talk for long. He actually ended up taking care of me for the next two days basically trying to distract me from being upset. After that i kinda fell for him but never had the guts to tell him because he was a couple years older and the fact that he was a lot smarter than other guys i knew really intimidated me and made him like him even more at the same time. One night we got to talking on the phone and he actually asked me some questions which eventually led me to admitting that i liked him. That week we hung out and we ended up having sex, it made things sorta weird between us because neither of us have had sex outside of being in a relationship. It just happened and we hadn't really discussed it or anything...afterwards i felt bad because i was the first person he had ever had sex with and he said that it wasn't like him to be doing anything like that outside of being in a relationship. It ended up happening again but after he had started dating someone else and i got back with my bf, and we were broken up again.
m actually lives down the street from me and still does!

now that all happened about a year and a half ago now fast forward to the present..

m changed A LOT! He's not that sensitive guy that used to care a lot anymore. Parties a lot now and gets pissed off at me whenever i start dating my guy again. That's because he thinks my bf is an asshole. And honestly my crush on m has really gone away since he's changed...and i just want to be friends now and i know that's all we'll ever be because there are just too many things in the way...we hang out still from time to time but we don't talk much anymore. The thing is i really want to become better friends with him since overall he is a GREAT guy and i really respect him because of how he's helped me and even through the changes he's still different from most guys i know. Sometimes i worry that because that physical line has been crossed that we can't be just friends again..

so what do i do? how do i improve our friendship because i don't really know how to bring it up with him anymore. i sent him a message yesterday telling him to watch his car since as i've mentioned he lives really close and has the same type of car as me (mine got stolen and stripped, totally messed up!).
i really care a lot about him as a friend, i just don't know how to tell him without making it weird between us, i want to keep it at a friendship level and still be close.

[Bo]

sorry i put this one in the wrong categ.(broken hearts) at first. wasn't paying attention.

[Gigabitch]

Sometimes i worry that because that physical line has been crossed that we can't be just friends again..

Yes. That. You will never be just friends.

Look, there are over three billion men on the planet. You can be friends with the ones you don't ****.

[Bo]

damn giga, you really think that? :/

[Bo]

i might have to start talking to myself about this one...
lol

[Cain]

i might have to start talking to myself about this one...
lol

I feel the same way as Giga. Once two people have had sex, I don't think they should remain friends when they are with other people.

[Bo]

so i shouldn't be friends with him?

[Cain]

so i shouldn't be friends with him?

I believe that's what we were trying to say.

[IndiReloaded]

Giga's "friends don't fcuk" quote should be made a sticky someplace, it comes up ALL the time.

[Bo]

and nobody thinks it's even a possibility? I mean my feelings for him are basically gone, i'm not sure he ever really had feelings for me..i could be wrong, i've never asked him.

[Cain]

and nobody thinks it's even a possibility? I mean my feelings for him are basically gone, i'm not sure he ever really had feelings for me..i could be wrong, i've never asked him.

I just view it as an awkward situation. Does your bf know that you and this guy have had sex? How does he feel about you hanging out with a guy you've had sex with?

[IndiReloaded]

What is your motive in wanting to pursue this, tho, Bo? That's what I'm having a hard time figuring.

[misombra]

you crossed the thin line.

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LhKceq0e22k"]YouTube - Treinos[/ame]

(sorry, couldn't find a better video.)

[Bo]

I just view it as an awkward situation. Does your bf know that you and this guy have had sex? How does he feel about you hanging out with a guy you've had sex with?

yeah he knows everything, and he doesn't mind as long as nothing happens...he tends to be more lenient towards what i want because he's done a lot to hurt me in the past and he also knows he can trust me 100%. I think there were a couple of times when my bf seemed a little iffy at the idea of us hanging out but he always ends up telling me he doesn't care unless something happens. i wouldn't cheat on him though, or on anyone for that matter

[IndiReloaded]

What is that called again? The Spiderman guys? They are just amazing.