Backstabbed by ex-roommate

[justforkix]

Here is the story of how my roommate cheated me.

So, we were a group of 4 really close friends - 2 guys and 2 girls. My roommate and I and 2 girls (they were roommates too). We became really good friends and my roomie started going out with one of the girls. The other girl and I became really really close and although I had feelings for her, I never asked her out.

My roomie eventually broke up with the other girl and she moved out of the circle of friends. This was about 6 months ago. So now it was just the 3 of us. I told this guy that I really liked the other girl and was planning to ask her out. But then I had to go away on a job for the summer and I decided to ask her out when I came back.

I came back a couple of weeks ago and I met up with her. I told her how I felt and asked if we could be more than friends but she said she likes someone else now. She said I shud have asked her out earlier. I was disappointed and sad but then I learnt that it was my ex-roomie who was going out with her.

I am so pissed right now. How could that low-level lying idiot cheat me like this? I confronted him and he was not even apologetic. He just said "too bad for u". He knew I liked her and he somehow charmed his way into her heart. Isn't there a rule that you dont date your friend's crush? I guess I am partly to blame, I should have asked her out earlier- she waited around for me and probably thought I would never ask her out, so she went with someone else.

I still talk to her - she said I mean a lot to her and am her best friend and she could not bear not talking to me.

I am upset and I am not sure what to do. How do I get over the fact that I lost the girl and that a friend backstabbed me

[starbuck]

Some people are arseholes. Find better friends who have enough decency not to move in on girls you want to date.

[James1388]

You will move on. She is not the one. Its hard to accept. Just realize that now and do things for yourself and everything will take care of itself. Your friend is not a true friend if he is dating her and you said that you liked her. I know you have atleast one true friend because everyone has one. Talk to them about it and you will feel better.

[misombra]

those situations always end that way, i swear. i was in a very similar situation long ago and it ended with a lot of back stabbing and the sick, sad end of all relationships between all the people.

sorry guy. even if you asked her out earlier that guy probably still would've snaked the girl. that's how those things go.

move on and stay away from foursomes like that. 3's company, 4's a crowd. (or whatever.)

[Cbrider]

Well, if its any consolation, you will look like the good guy in the end.

Chances are this set up with your two friends will run the same course aas the one before. It think its pretty classless for your female friend to date this guy after he had already dated the other girl.

Be prepared for this girl you like to come running to you when the relationship falls apart.

[justforkix]

thanks folks. i feel a lot better reading your replies.

this female still wants to talk to me though. she was at a concert with the dude yday and she kept messaging me and sending me pics of the concert. i stopped replying after a while and she sent an email asking me if i liked the pics. I feel shes just trying to make me jealous.

[James1388]

Maybe and if that is case stay away. She is evil then. You definitely don't want to talk to her. Don't take that, you can find a lot better.

[lilly1185]

BROCODE!

Seriously. He's not a true bro.