Do you think that people generally take our advice on LF?

[Charlie Boy II]

I think it depends on the question. The "He does, this, this, and this" posts and the "break up with that loser" responses - I think that advice almost never gets followed.

But questions which ask how to address a specific problem, like, "how do I get her interested in sex again?" or "what should I text her?," I think that advice gets taken a lot.

[shheadz]

I think a lot of people come on here in fresh pain needing an emotional release, someone to talk them down off the ledge so to speak. They may hear what we say, but they don't take it to heart until they're ready. Some are ready right away, but most need more time.

True. I guess I can say with all honesty that I came here looking for a place to vent, someone to hold my hand, and someone to say "everything will be alright". So any advice given to me at that time would have been totally wasted.

[Petit Papillon]

Or maybe because the people that follow the advice don't come back, so they are hardly noticed.

I swear I remember maybe one or two posters who said 'Thank You, You really helped me, I think I won't have to come back here.Bye' .And I swear again, I remember a lot of posters were saying 'You guys are crazy haters, You don't understand nothing,Your advice is shit,I'm leaving!'

Maybe that's why I stopped to respond to as many threads as I used to... Cause those people almost never listened to our advices... And that's the fact, cause I know it . :o)

[shheadz]

In the short time I've been here, I only remember one successful follow up post. Some shy kid who couldn't muster up the courage to talk to a girl he liked in school. He did, he posted about it, and he never came back.

[starbuck]

I wrote a successful follow-up in my first post. I told everyone I had followed the advice and had broken it off with the dude and got some very supportive responses. I was already leaning that way, but the advice I got helped tipped me over the edge.

[Sanctuary]

In my early posts here, I got a good number of followups.

Maybe it's that first impressions stuck with me but people here for the most part really did listen to what I told them.

Nowadays, I'm too lazy to give advice and I no longer contribute to this forum like I used to.

[BoredGeorge]

No because most of it is innacurate and constantly repeated. Anyone who tries to given practical advice is argued with constantly.

Anyone who follows the normal ' You'll be fine, just work on your personality because that is what really counts ! ' will get endless praise. This advice is paramount to asking for magic fairy dusty to help you with your minor life troubles.

I know this, because I did the experiment. Anyone remember ?

[BoredGeorge]

I wrote a successful follow-up in my first post. I told everyone I had followed the advice and had broken it off with the dude and got some very supportive responses. I was already leaning that way, but the advice I got helped tipped me over the edge.

Ah yes, well if the advice involves breaking up with/hurting a man in some way, then that advice is usually given and followed to the letter.

There was a thread about a professor and a student where a number of posters had to vehemently intervene to stop this sort of thing from happening. If it had, the result probably would have been bad for both parties either way that it went.

[Junket]

Some people have come back.

Doesn't matter much to me since it's all just leisure, anyway.

[starbuck]

Ah yes, well if the advice involves breaking up with/hurting a man in some way, then that advice is usually given and followed to the letter.

Most of the time, when posters give advice to break up with someone, the advice is given because STAYING in that relationship would be more hurtful to the OP than leaving it. We are here giving advice to the OP not their hapless other. This goes for both genders.

Don't bring your woman-hating into my thread. Go peddle those papers somewhere else.

[irrelevant_89]

I voted yes. For the most part I think it is, and I haven't been here for long but I've already taken note of a lot of good tips. Now, I came here because of that messy situation with the infamous non-girl... I'm still talking to her, and I'm not completely over her yet, but at least I'm making a little effort to get talking with other girls and not letting myself get carried away by those feelings. So I guess I'm following your advice just in part.

The advice that probably gets ignored the most is "non-contact". That takes a lot of willpower to do, not easy at all. I ignored it myself... I agree it's important but sometimes you can get addicted to a person just like a drug... you probably understand...

[Sanctuary]

This advice is paramount to asking for magic fairy dusty to help you with your minor life troubles.

Where can I get some of that magic fairy dusty? I'll pay good money for it.

[Cbrider]

No, they don't take our advice INITIALLY. If they come back its always the same story: "You guys were right, I should have listened."

Welcome to life.

[Mish]

I agree with Giga, I think most people are here for group therapy and not for advice per se. They are here because they need some psychological air and to know that other people have been through the same as them and they are not alone. The occasional fights that break out I think have little to do with bad advice, but from people feeling not accepted.

[QueenofCorona]

I agree with BlueSummer, sometimes you just need to get things off your chest and you maybe feel you can't talk about with friends or family and its nice because you can spill your guts and not feel judged in the same way as you might with people you really know yet you still get different points of view.