Question

[IndiReloaded]

I don't know. I begrudge myself in love and in life in general. It almost seems hypocritical to be too human. Hence, my ending relationships before they fully bloom. Turning to a dark mood when accomplishment is recognized or rewarded. I feel better about my accomplishments before other humans recognize them. When someone is smiling at me in admiration or is listening to me speak, I feel very uncomfortable inside. When a woman is looking into my eyes full of satisfaction and joy to have been with me, I find it unnerving. On the outside, I am told that I'm cool as a cucumber and just fine. Inside, I'm very different. As a friend used to tell me, "Cameron, you are your own worst enemy."

Cam, I'm sorry you weren't born Vulcan. Get over it. Besides, don't you remember that Vulcans are extremely emotional and only developed logic as a compensatory mechanism?

Embrace your humanness.

[Illusional]

can i ask what city you're thinking of heading to?

raverboy

[sookie6]

CAM

First off let me tell you how much I admire someone with strong family values. It's something that is fading in our societies and I'm pleased you recognise this bond as important.
Especially and also probably due to the fact your parents must be very loving.

This has to be a factor of strength in your life. So I'd encourage you to have them around in your life (of course you also need your independence and to build your own home but this is another issue..)

Like any big decision in life I think you should take things gradually.

You go first. You settle down a bit with your job and the new place. Then your parents visit you and see how they like it. Do not under estimate the power of having your roots in one place. They could realise that they're not happy in the new place and be miserable.

Personally rushed decisions never worked out for me whether it was when buying a car or in relationships!

[CAM]

can i ask what city you're thinking of heading to?

raverboy

Can't disclose at the moment. Besides, there are two possible locations each far away from one another.

[CAM]

CAM

First off let me tell you how much I admire someone with strong family values. It's something that is fading in our societies and I'm pleased you recognise this bond as important.
Especially and also probably due to the fact your parents must be very loving.

REPLY: Thanks Yes, strong family ties are disappearing rapidly. I'm fortunate.

This has to be a factor of strength in your life. So I'd encourage you to have them around in your life (of course you also need your independence and to build your own home but this is another issue..)

REPLY: They have played a big role in my success through their love and support. I'd only pursue marriage and family IF that same type of sincere and loving support existed within the family unit.

Like any big decision in life I think you should take things gradually.

You go first. You settle down a bit with your job and the new place. Then your parents visit you and see how they like it. Do not under estimate the power of having your roots in one place. They could realise that they're not happy in the new place and be miserable.

Personally rushed decisions never worked out for me whether it was when buying a car or in relationships!

REPLY: I agree. I have no need to rush. If I stayed where I am, it would not be the end of the world....move only if is really a better place, a better job.

[CAM]

Update: I had a phone interview and now they want an on-site interview. Hurray! We're getting closer to moving Now, must prepare, prepare, prepare...got to nail the interview and let's hope that leads to packing boxes, tape and a U-Haul.

[CAM]

Note: the folks are totally behind me on this possible move, which relieves some stress from my mind.

[dewilliams2]

There really isn't anything wrong with this if that is what they want to do. I am also very close to my parents and I could see them wanting to do the same thing especially after they retire.

I think its great you have a good relationship with your parents, so many people do not have that either because they don't know how great it could be or they have awful parents.

Tell you parents that they can move with you but only if they want to but if they don't you will come and visit them especially around holidays.

With that said I wouldn't turn down a job because of it...I'm sure as much as they love you they will want you to succeed in life.