Thanks, Jess. Things started out easier and he was very open-minded. His concern was that we're going on a year together and it hasn't gotten any easier for me to hit orgasm during intercourse, even with plenty of oral sex as foreplay and clitoral stimulation during intercourse. I told him that the trouble with this is that we've only recently begun having intercourse regularly, and he was away for 4 months earlier this year, so it set us back a little on our sexual progress together. I told him not to fret, and that I believe good sex takes time to get right, especially for me.
He was much more at ease about it this morning. Seems like he had an attack of conscience last night after the deed. And while I'm usually pretty understanding, some of the things he said bruised my ego and I got upset. I'm totally willing to work at it and make it fun in the process. Part of my problem is my desire for an orgasm. When I get on that path, sometimes I feel like a woman scorned if I don't get what I want. I need to stop being so petrified of potentially not having an orgasm (If I don't, he views that as failure, like many men). And for a long time, before a guy began giving me orgasms, I was content to go without until I started dating men who knew what they were doing. Now, it's a must, for me and for the guy's ego. But I think I need to pull back and stop obsessing over it.