Originally Posted by
LailaK
According to Indignant I'm a "grown up" if I get married and have children early.
That's dumb. I'm 25. I haven't lived with my parents since I was 17. I paid for school all by myself. I send money home to help them pay for their mortgage. I pay my own rent. I pay my own bills. Is that grown up enough for you?
I also recognize that my 20's are a time in my life where I can be selfish. I can live in my own apartment and decorate it however I want. I can spend my money to go on any vacation I want. I can have a job that let's me travel around the world without worrying about who is left behind at home. I can make mistakes like dating men that aren't that great and let the consequences roll off my back. I can make myself feel better with an assortment of flings. I can quit my job and start a new one for a salary increase just because I want to without worrying about the impact on my family.
Basically my twenties are a time when I can do whatever the f*ck I want. That's awesome. Why would I ruin that with a husband and kids? Once you have kids you CAN'T be selfish. Your life should be dedicated mostly to raising your kids correctly. Why the hell would I do that now instead of in my 30's? Not my plan.
If you don't like my lifestyle I think you should be asking yourself why you seem to care so much. There are so many other things to be indignant about.
how old was your mom when she had you?
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