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Thread: Girl wants to take it slow, like her would like some clarity --- help

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    Girl wants to take it slow, like her would like some clarity --- help

    Within the last two weeks I started hanging out with this girl, which would perhaps constitute going on a few dates. About 8 months ago she got out of a long term relationship (of 4 years), as did I of 1.5 years about 3 months ago. We’re both in our mid/late 20s.

    2 months ago she moved to the area I’m living now, and we had a few amazing times out. The first time we went out she told me how much she liked me/was into me but also wanted to take things slow. This most recent time we went out this week she again stated how she wanted to take things slow and how her priority was first getting her life back in order from just moving and adapting to a normal routine of things she wanted to do, work, etc., but also while still having fun.

    Things are great but I worry about what will become and if she is leading me on. We’ve fairly intimate in the touching/kissing sense and she makes a few jokes at times about couples and what we may be.

    Understandably she got out of a long-term relationship and may want to take things as they come for fear of getting hurt (guessing), as well as adapt to her new surroundings. How do I come across as the guy that wants to be with her, without smother her or like she is simply “using” me?

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    i think when it comes to her 'leading you on' it'll be a bit hard to tell because you don't know her very very well.... for all you know she could be a completely different person to what she is like with you. i however, also think that she sounds pretty decent. i don't think she's trying to rebound with you 'cos otherwise you'd already have gotten a lot further, IMO. as for the smothering, i think you should carry on as you are now, just don't start becoming clingy and txting her lots. when you're together read her body language to see what she wants. i'm sure you'll be fine, just stay cool around her
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