Hey, it's cool. We're not the ones invested in this relationship; we're just armchair quarterbacks tossing out our opinions.
Holy...seven years. Damn, I missed that part.I posted that response shortly after talking to my best friend on the phone. He was going on and on about how he keeps asking this shy woman out and she keeps avoiding giving a straight answer. Then he said that our situations are pretty similar. I had to stop him right there and point out, no, our situations are completely different. You're talking about somebody you haven't even got out with once, and I'm talking about the woman I've been dating for seven years, and living with for half that time. That is a gigantic difference, and his inability to tell the difference was beyond annoying. It was absurd, but I had to guide him to the likely conclusion that Shy Woman is probably too shy to say no, even though that's what she is thinking.
All I can say is, you gotta do what's best for you. Is this sort of behavior a habit, or was it a one-time incident?