Hi All,
My current situation is, I have been living out of home sharing accommodation with a girl, her mother, and her boyfriend for about 2 years now. She recently broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years and is now single. I used to be great mates with both her and her boyfriend, going to parties and movies together occassionally (me being the third wheel :/ ).
My friendship with the boyfriend has kind of deminished since he is no longer living here, but I'm still getting along really well with the girl. We have the same sense of humor, laugh at each others jokes all the time and just are really relaxed and chilled around each other. I've gone out shopping for new clothes with her (which I think was a mistake now that I think about it) but yer, I've always kind of had a thing for her.
I can see I am deep in the friend zone and I'm trying to get out. I've started doing some things I googled to help get out of the friend zone e.g. not seeing her as much, talk about other girls when she starts talking about other guys, being a bit more of a dick, not being so quick to reply to messages and phone calls, and doing things for me like hobbies, studying, working out and eating healthier.
Just today she said to me jokingly "Yeah, you know about everything I do at home, things like, being out of make, being sick, hungover etc. so even if we meet up sometime in the future, there is no way you like be attracted to me haha!" That kind of hit home and made me realise I may be totally wasting my time trying to get her to like me like a potential boyfriend.
Its been about a month since she broke up with her boyfriend and she has started smoking with friends a lot more to chill out (which I make fun of her for all the time) and she is pretty much going to slut around with random one nighters for a while to rebound from the relationship. Even though they aren't things that I find particularly attractive, I still like her coz I know who she really is...
My next plan is to start going out with heaps of other girls and telling her about them (jealousy, hopefully).
Am I wasting my time? Should i just move on to other girls and just accept the friendship with nothing more?
Cheers,
Jay