I'll try to be short, even though I think details are important.
I first met Sam briefly when I was going out with one of his good friends, John (his current room mate) last year. I had just gotten out of a long relationship, and I was having fun with John, but we were never really dating. Sam had added me on Facebook randomly to mess with John (apparently). We only ever made out, and the fling soon fizzled out. Now John and I have a completely platonic, but close relationship.
Skip to April of this year and I got a ride with Sam, John, and another friend of ours to a concert 3 hours away from our college. I was immediately attracted to Sam, and I could just tell that he thought I was cute. He kept looking back at me in the mirror to see my response to various things, kept cracking jokes about the other guys, etc. You catch my drift.
I didn't see those guys at the concert, and Sam made a big deal about me being MIA on our way back to school. As soon as we each got home, we began Facebook messaging/texting a lot, and he kept asking about when our next road trip was going to be and when we were all going out again. It was a bit frustrating because he always would say "we should all do" whatever..never asking me on a date. It took him a while for us to even exchange numbers.
The first time we met up downtown, he was really drunk. Funny and still fun to be around, but drunk. We did talk and dance, but nothing substantial. He complimented me on my dancing and teased me about John for the first time. The next time we met up, he wasn't intoxicated at all, and we had our usual witty banter. He mentioned that John liked my ex bf (revealing to me that they had talked about me). He drove me home, but we just talked in his car for a while. It never seemed like the appropriate time for a kiss, and he never tried.
I know I probably shouldn't have, but I did talk to John about him. He said that of course they had talked about me, and that Sam had asked what my story was, etc. He said that Sam was interested in me, but that he's "really lazy" with girls.. that he'd usually rather sleep than make an effort. Not sure what's up with that. He said Sam is notorious for being bad about communication with everyone.
John also said that Sam has never seemed bothered by our old fling.. but I'm still unsure because he'll bring it up (in a teasing way) fairly often (even referring to John as my ex boyfriend once).
Another big issue throughout all of this: Sam knew I wasn't staying in town for the summer. I am 5 hours away for the whole summer doing an internship. When we first started talking, he was really adamant about getting a group to come visit me and pick me up on the way to his hometown. He stopped mentioning that as time went on, though.
The last time we met up, he was supposed to come over afterwards with John and a girlfriend of mine, but the situation got difficult & John needed to go home. Sam texted me that he was bummed we didn't get to hang out and said, "it sucks that it's the end of the semester and you won't be here this summer."
He had mentioned wanting me to visit for his 21st birthday, but he shares a birthday with my brother, so I didn't go. Since summer has started, he has been extra horrible with communication. Whenever he became less responsive, I just decided to not contact him first. He has initiated conversation on Facebook twice recently.. once about visiting the city I'm in & the other time about my internship. Each time he'll ask me questions for a few minutes and then just stop talking out of nowhere. So irritating. It seems like he has a decent amount of female friends who write on his wall..telling him to visit.
I don't know if he's just trying to keep me around, or if he's actually interested in me. It's odd that Sam is even like this, considering he used to talk about how girls "play mind games," and guys never do. Yeah, right...
THOUGHTS??