Hello Everyone!
First time to post here. I'm seeking for any advice about my (ex) girlfriend that falls out of love at me.
here's my story:
My (ex) girlfriend for a short period (2 and half months) just recently broke up with me. She said the same thing “falling out of love with me”. After hearing her say that, I feel like I am a real bad person and a total jerk. I ask her why and said she doesn’t even know and doesn’t want to talk about it anymore. She wants me to leave right away but didn’t listen to her request. I keep asking her more questions like did I done something wrong?, What’s her problem that maybe we can talk about it?, What drives her to fall out of love with me etc... but didn’t answer back. She got irritated more when I ask a lot of questions because she’s already tired from her internship and want to go to sleep. All I do is begging her that time to give me a chance so even if I still want to talk to her I am still concern that she’s already tired and have to wake up early for her internship in a hotel. So I decided to leave instead and say this to her ”do what you like”. After that I didn’t contact her till now.
Right now, I am still hurt and thinking if she really meant everything she says to me wondering if I’ve really done something wrong. I told her that I’ll change and be better for her.
I want her back but she told me that it’s not gonna happen anymore and told me she wants to focus on her daughter instead. I keep insisting to her to give me a chance but says no, though she says If ever we become together again it will happen again (realizing now that I didn’t put a lot of attention to her and make her feel unappreciated because of work and I admit that it’s my fault). I am confused if she still loves me even if she says that she fell out of love at me. What should I do? I plan to stay out of her for 2 months by not calling or sending any text messages and instead focus on improving myself.
Is 2 months really long enough to make her feel that I move on and make her feel that I don’t care and love her anymore that everything is ok to me? But my mind keeps on asking will it work or is it really late for me if I do that? Shall I move on instead or continue to stay out of her for months and court her again? One more thing, she’s much older to me by 5 years and feels like there’s no hope if I approach her again and say the same thing. I don’t know what kind of approach shall I give to her if ever I ask her out?.
My friend advice me that I should not contact her for at least 3 weeks then call her and tell her that I’m sorry for causing her the pain of the break up and I agree with it (even if I disagree) and say something that “thinking with a lot of thought its best for us to have that kind of conversation” (appearing that I agree with the break up and show her that I am strong and matured enough to go on my own life without her and in fact rejecting her). Please help. I want her back seriously. She says to me before that she’s not the type of woman that falls back to her ex. What should I do? Please help. Any help would be appreciated.
Santi