I have an online friend who I have known for over 6 years, he is 25 and I am 26.
He and I first started talking when I was in a different country and we went through the whole "I think I love you" thing before we realized (after a few dramas) that we really are only just friends. I have now moved to New York to study and over the years we have continued to talk to each other on a very regular basis (sometimes as long as 8 hours at a time) but have never met. I have tried to arrange meetings (he is in Texas) but they always fall through either due to his or my schedules. Neither of us have mentioned the L word to each other in a few years now and there are no real terms of endearment like babe or hon - nothing at all other than the same sort of friendship I have with other male friends.
Over the last week things have gotten a little confusing. Last weekend he was hardly around. He would get online and then get a phone call and leave with a buddy. The Sunday before last I jokingly asked him if he had found a girl. He said yes but it was not her he was going out with that night it was a buddy as she lived 2 hours away and he had never met her. I didn't see him again until the Tuesday when he got online into a game but not onto skype. When I said hi to him he said he was in a hurry as he was going to dinner but would be online Wednesday and Thursday but then not until after 4th July as he was going on vacation with his family.
I didn't see him on either of those 2 nights but he did log on Friday night and said he was late for the movies and had to go. He did not give me a chance to reply to him before he logged off. I found this really rude and sent him an email asking what I had done to annoy him so much that he just didn't think twice about being rude to me. I also told him I was happy he had found someone and told him I was jealous- meaning because I had lost my friend. I wished him the best and told him to look for me if he ever wanted to chat. Normally I don't receive a reply longer than 2 or 3 words when I email him but he sent me a very long reply which states that I have and will always have a special place in his heart and how we have a special bond and how much he loves my company but because we have never met he has dated people over the last year or so, which I already knew. He also said that he had had the girl with him since Tuesday and that he has known me over 6 years and has never met me but has only known this girl for 2 weeks and she has driven over 2 hours to see him, has hugged and has kissed him. He said that he is not hiding me from her - she supposedly knows about me but he feels because she is there he needs to spend time with her. He said he even felt guilty taking time away from her to write the email to me.
I find this all very confusing. I feel he is lying to me and maybe in some way attempting to manipulate me. He said she is leaving the country for a month soon and this week is all he has had with her. He said he wants a fairy tale ending and I have the choice of whether I want to be a part of it but I have to make the effort and get there or he will choose someone else. I find myself actually doubting whether there really is a girl or if there is whether she is actually there. He does work hard at this time of year so he may well be just working long hours, but wow if there was a girl staying with you would you be emailing another girl saying these things? And why does a girl supposedly drive over 2 hours to meet a guy within a week of knowing him and stay at his place and why would he let her? Why on the day she supposedly arrived is he telling me he will be online the next 2 nights?
He will not be back online now till after July 4th says he will be around more and can talk about this then.
What's really going on here guys? Any ideas?
I need to get my head straight before I talk to him next. I thought we had a great friendship but this is a little bizarre.