Is she secretly testing me and giving me another chance?

[richquattrucci]

My ex after a year texted me we hungout. We had sex and talked and made up all was well. She said shed go to dinner with me monday which was last monday. Sunday night she told me she might have to work late like my old self I flipped out because normal she blows me off in the past but she was actually being honest this time. She got mad at me and said I havent changed. A week went by and she texted me and said it doesnt make me wanna see you or think things will be different when you act like that. I apologized. 2 days went by. Yesterday I texted her a nice note basically asking for a chance to prove to her. She read it and didnt respond. 2pm today she texted me and said sorry I didnt read I fell asleep but I know she did read it because she has an iphone. I said dont worry what did you think. She said Im not ready right now to decide after last week. I said give me a chance spend time with me I will prove it to you. She said idk Ill text you later Im not even out untill 2 am. My question is what should I do is she testing me secretly to see if I can be patient and not flip to to see if I get mad when she doesnt respond or hangout should I just play it cool.

[lalalita]

I think she is going exactly what she says. That she doesn't know and isn't ready right now.

[Maple1714]

She's not trying to test you. She doesn't want to deal with being in a relationship with you. You blew it by blowing up on her. The real issue here is that you feel insecure with this girl. Why? Are you like this with all girls you date? How old are you? Need more back-up info.

You will drive anyone away if you always blow up on people...

[richquattrucci]

We dated for 3 years and were inseparable we feel apart and I havent seen her for a year I love her so much and I want to prove to her that I can change and we can be happy there has to be a reason shes come back we broke up once before and she came back to me In my mind were meant for something, Im 22 years old

[richquattrucci]

I think she is going exactly what she says. That she doesn't know and isn't ready right now.

What should I do I dont want to loose her again

[Maple1714]

We dated for 3 years and were inseparable we feel apart and I havent seen her for a year I love her so much and I want to prove to her that I can change and we can be happy there has to be a reason shes come back we broke up once before and she came back to me In my mind were meant for something, Im 22 years old

She might have just come back b/c she was lonely and curious. After a while people tend to forget why they broke up with someone....people get nostalgic. So, she contacted you and you guys had sex. You didn't act any differently towards her after a year...so why would she want to give it another shot? Just back off. You've already told her how you feel. Balls in her court.

[Maple1714]

What should I do I dont want to loose her again

Stop trying to hold on so tightly...women don't like that. No one likes that.

[richquattrucci]

She might have just come back b/c she was lonely and curious. After a while people tend to forget why they broke up with someone....people get nostalgic. So, she contacted you and you guys had sex. You didn't act any differently towards her after a year...so why would she want to give it another shot? Just back off. You've already told her how you feel. Balls in her court.

I figured I ruined it oo well shell be the one that got away

[Maple1714]

I figured I ruined it oo well shell be the one that got away

I hope you mean that! Let her go! Move on and next time your dating someone, try not to be so insecure about the situation.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Dude, you sound like such a bitch right now.

I hope you reread this and slap the **** out of yourself.

[basilandthyme]

She was interested in giving it another try, but you blew it when you exploded on her. Having said that, why do you want her back when she has a history of blowing you off? It would just be more of the same.

[richquattrucci]

She was interested in giving it another try, but you blew it when you exploded on her. Having said that, why do you want her back when she has a history of blowing you off? It would just be more of the same.

Because things are different now and I can tell shes different and maybe we can make a work I kno she cares about me still and I care about her alot. Is it still possible that shell give it another go

[BackUpOrGetStng]

How is she different if she's doing the same things? Such a twat(you, not her).

[Anonymously_]

She isn't doing the same things, twat. Rich blew up on her because he thought she was doing the same thing when she wasn't hence she has backed off. Good on her, sorry Rich.

[richquattrucci]

She isn't doing the same things, twat. Rich blew up on her because he thought she was doing the same thing when she wasn't hence she has backed off. Good on her, sorry Rich.

Now that I see shes not the same Im hoping as time goes on and she thinks about it she gives me another chance only time will tell I know shes nervous but just maybe shell come around.