Originally Posted by
babsetta
I have tried a lot of different ways to deal with this problem, at first I used to ignore him, then I started to get angry also and shout back, and now I'm back to ignoring him, but it still hurts. He always apologises afterwards but we still end up having the same situation one week later.
Do you know why none of what you're doing is working? Because you have no control over his anger issues. You cannot change him or fix him or do anything else to make it better. Hon, do you realise that by looking for ways to modify your own behaviour, you're effectively taking the blame for his anger? His anger is HIS responsibility.
There's also another reason why he continues to treat you like this: it's because you let him!! He doesn't respect you because you don't respect yourself enough to get rid of him. If I were in your situation, I would have dumped him loooong ago.
You talk about moving out to scare him. Sure it will scare him and sure he'll promise change.....just like he's done every week before. He will not change. And the sooner you realise that this is unacceptable, the better.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.