my girlfriend is depressed and I don't know how to help

[confusedguy1012]

My girlfriend recently was pregnant and she lost the baby now she just stays in our room all day I've tried her friends coming over trying to take her out being there for her so she can talk nothing seems to help her get even the slightest bit better what can I do

[kisha1986]

Sorry for lose. try to con soul her. be sympathetic. and try grievance counseling. because loosing a baby is a very sad occasion. hope she gets better.

[TheEvilJester]

How long ago did this happen? That is a pretty devastating thing to have happen. She isn't going to get over that quickly. It will take time. Just be there for her, in whatever way she may need/want. In time, she will get better. She may never fully get over that, but in time she will move on. Good luck, and so sorry for the loss.

[confusedguy1012]

A week ago she lost it and I am not just expecting her to get over it but I want her to want to keep going she's barely eating barely sleeping won't talk to anyone or leave the bedroom

[surfhb2]

Im sorry

This will take time but she will heal. It will take weeks or several months...just make sure she know you are there for her. Talking to a doctor will help you understand better

[michelle23]

Give her time. Miscarriages are v traumatic-dont pressure her. Just be there for her and understand we all deal with grief differently. This is her way and shes entitled to that. It wont be bad forever-you just have to stay strong for her now and just let her grieve. Friends of mine who had miscarriages years ago still get a little upset about it now if they talk/think about it.

[confusedguy1012]

I get that she needs to greave but it kills me to see her like this nothing helps its almost like she's going through the motions of living but isn't really there anymore

[surfhb2]

I get that she needs to greave but it kills me to see her like this nothing helps its almost like she's going through the motions of living but isn't really there anymore

Think of it this way......once this is over (which it will be soon). You will be that much wiser and mature in dealing with life and your feelings.

I strongly suggest you seek a group therapy session for people who have dealt with this

[confusedguy1012]

I think it would more benefit her the whole therapy thing if I could get her to go

[surfhb2]

I think it would benefit both of you at this point. She's not going to be up for those quit yet I'm assuming. When she is, she'll have your experiences in thereby to help.

Call a place today please

[confusedguy1012]

I'm no pu**y I definitely don't need therapy

[rest77]

Am sorry for your lose.

Its possible you don't need a therapy, but if You do really want to help her, then do the therapy together with her. That's one of the many ways you can help your depressed girlfriend.

[TheEvilJester]

Needing therapy does not make somebody any less of a person, or a "pu**y" as you put it. And, for the record, that is coming from somebody who has never gone to therapy. Honestly, I think we could all use it at some point in our lives. This kind of situation is definitely one that can sometimes be hard to get through alone. Sometimes it takes seeking the help of a professional. All the same, it may not. She may just need to take her own time and will wind up okay. The same could be said for you. For now, all you can do is be there for her. Good luck.

[surfhb2]

I'm no pu**y I definitely don't need therapy

Gee. You missed the point!

Great to know your GF has a thoughtless, close minded guy to help her get through this.

*Hand slapping forehead*