Am I friendzoned? :(

[AnErin]

If someone always seems to busy to go out, they are not real likely to get asked out.
When he asked what you were doing tonight, his next statement would have been, "If you are not doing anything, I know this place..." if you had not been busy.

So then, if you are wanting to go out with him -
Next time he asks what you are doing tonight, make yourself available even if it means cancelling on "girls night out". He is not going to say "when can you go out?"

(glances at watch) Oh look, Saturday is in two days. If he tries to ask what you are doing tonight, what will you say? Or why do you not ask what he is doing?
Let us know how the first date goes

EDIT - to answer about "friend zone". No you have not been. Men do not "friend zone" women. That is an act strictly reserved for women to do to men. Men are not likely leave a willing female unfertilized.

[basilandthyme]

alright.. I forgot to mentioned something that popped up in my mind yesterday. Last 2 saturdays we saw each other I was going out both times. First Sat I told him I gotta leave the gym around 7 cuz I have to meet up with my friends. On the next sat he asked me what I'm doing tonight and I said I have girls night out. Maybe that's the reason he hasn't asked me out. Maybe he wanted to, but I told him I was busy before he have the chance to ask me. Orrr maybe I think what I want to think lol
What you think guys?

I think you're grasping at straws.

Given that you're old fashioned and won't ask him out....and expect him to put in more work....how would it change things if we thought he WAS into you? It doesn't sound like you'd use the information to actually make anything happen.

[searock]

Men do not "friend zone" women. That is an act strictly reserved for women to do to men. Men are not likely leave a willing female unfertilized.

So much wrong.

OP, stop asking us - WE DON'T KNOW whether he likes you or whatever. Ask him - ask him to grab a coffee with you, to join you for a morning jog at the park, whatever feels more spontaneous, it doesn't have to be a formal dinner date. Just gauge his interest by asking him to hang out alone with you outside of the gym environment, if you're too scared to ask him out on a proper date. Just avoid saying silly things like "I'm not asking you on a date".

[smackie9]

alright.. I forgot to mentioned something that popped up in my mind yesterday. Last 2 saturdays we saw each other I was going out both times. First Sat I told him I gotta leave the gym around 7 cuz I have to meet up with my friends. On the next sat he asked me what I'm doing tonight and I said I have girls night out. Maybe that's the reason he hasn't asked me out. Maybe he wanted to, but I told him I was busy before he have the chance to ask me. Orrr maybe I think what I want to think lol
What you think guys?

You should have asked him if he wanted to join you......oh well another lost opportunity.

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EDIT - to answer about "friend zone". No you have not been. Men do not "friend zone" women. That is an act strictly reserved for women to do to men. Men are not likely leave a willing female unfertilized.

I am going to have to agree....I have never been friend zoned by a guy in my life.

[HeartIsAching]

I really dont get an answer to my question here, am I in the friend zone or he likes more for more than just a friend?

I would say no... ask him out. Like wakeup said, don't always be the one to ask him out, but ask him out.

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I gave him a lot of hints that I like him... but sometimes when you like someone you see what you want to see.

Oh for ****s sake... why do women insist on doing this? Men don't get hints.

This bears repeating: MEN DON'T GET HINTS. EVER.

Ask for what you want. Seriously.

[searock]

I am going to have to agree....I have never been friend zoned by a guy in my life.

Which doesn't prove that all men want to sleep with just any woman. Friendzoning is a stupid word anyway, it just means that you are attracted to someone that possibly likes you as a friend, but not as a potential sexual partner.

[TheEvilJester]

I would say no... ask him out. Like wakeup said, don't always be the one to ask him out, but ask him out.

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Oh for ****s sake... why do women insist on doing this? Men don't get hints.

This bears repeating: MEN DON'T GET HINTS. EVER.

Wait.... what are you saying? I don't get it.

:-P

[Lulu1987]

Thanx a lot guys, I will let you know how it goes

[Lulu1987]

Well, things went on a tottaly different direction. Since last time I saw him I don't want him to ask me out anymore He's total jerk. The things that he told me helped me realized that I don't want to have anything more than a friendship with such a person. Our values are completly different. He just have a nice body, but no brain lol

[TheEvilJester]

Sorry to hear that, but it is good that you found that out now. I'm kind of curious as to what he could have done/said to make you change your mind so completely. But, I would understand if you'd rather not get into details.

Anyways, good luck to you. If this guy wasn't it, then that just means that your Mr. Right is still out there waiting for you. :-)

[Lulu1987]

Well.. after he was telling me how drunk he got with his friends on St Paddy day....we were talking how he lives with his parents and he's looking to buy a house. Then he told me how he screamed to his mom and told her: "get the f***** out of here!" and his dad told him : "dont talk this way to your mother" Then he said:" Shut up, I'm bigger than you!"
So I don't wanna have anything more than a friendship with such a person. He doesn't respect his parents and that talks a lot about a person..

[Wakeup]

Well, things went on a tottaly different direction. Since last time I saw him I don't want him to ask me out anymore He's total jerk. The things that he told me helped me realized that I don't want to have anything more than a friendship with such a person. Our values are completly different. He just have a nice body, but no brain lol

Begs the question why you'd want to maintain even a "friendship" with a "jerk" and a guy that has crossed what you consider a personal boundary. You are what you eat, Lulu.

[TheEvilJester]

Yeah, I would kind of agree with Wakeup. If he is such a jerk, why even bother maintaining a friendship? Doesn't even seem worth your time as a friend, if you ask me.

[Lulu1987]

Well friends is too much to say, but more like acquaintance. I mean I'm not going to stop talking to him but I'm not planning to be close friend with him .