Your girlfriend cuts the night short to go party. How would you feel?

[Freefalling]

Kick her to the curb huh

[doppelgaenger]

Yeah, basically. Stand up for yourself. If you're not happy, kick her to the curb.

[IndiReloaded]

WYSIWYG.

If you don't like party girls, don't date them. There are plenty of fun, responsible, interesting 18 year old girls. Why don't you find one of those instead?

[Freefalling]

Its not that i dont like her. Its that i didnt like what she did. I wanted to know if what she did was normal or not. I wanted to know if i was being irrational by being offended by what she did.

[misombra]

yeah it's not a nice thing to do to someone. but it's something girls that are very young do.

you can either put up with it or not. most people would not.

[IndiReloaded]

Its not that i dont like her. Its that i didnt like what she did. I wanted to know if what she did was normal or not. I wanted to know if i was being irrational by being offended by what she did.

Its not a question of 'normal', its a matter of preference.

I'm not sure, in this case, what the difference is b/t not liking her vs. what she did. Who she is, is a person who enjoys partying in the wee hours before dawn. She also takes drugs and, I would guess, is more likely to be involved in high-risk sexual activities. It goes with that lifestyle.

Personally, I wouldn't even be interested in someone who would take off to party at 4am. So, being offended wouldn't even come into it for me, I'd just decide I prefer someone with a different lifestyle.

[Cbrider]

Not much scares me, but Ecstasy would be one of those things. I don't think people realize how dangerous it is. It might not harm your lungs or face, but it will steal your soul. It depletes and stops production of Serotonin, which controls anger, mood, appetite and other important functions.

[Aeradalia]

This girl is 100% party and 100% all about her... and those percentages leave little time for you.

So... do you want to try to fit into her busy schedule of partying, try the mostly unsuccessful approach of changing her... or... do you want to find someone else who would like to include you in their life as someone more than a boy toy or after thought?

[lesa]

So as the guy, how would you feel?

I would say to myself, "well I chose her". Now, I either accept her behavior or leave.

[Freefalling]

I hear ya. And i really appreciate all your inputs on this. What id like to know know is... What is the cause of her behaviour? I mean... Is it because she is young? ...if so, is it a typical teenager who loves to party's behaviour? Is it because she doesnt care? If so, how come there are a hundred and one other things that she does that contradict it...like calling me ever other hour to talk and tell me what she is doing, and really being hurt whenever she ever so slightely feels like i am neglecting her...even when i dont mean to. Being overly jealous. All of these things are what a notice, they are her actions. So its not like im being mislead. So what do you think are or is the reason or reasons to her behaviour.

[Mish]

Teenage girls are contradictory, there are no reasons to explain them



Anyway, if you are looking for a solution to that kind of behaviour


hand cuff her to the bed.

[vashti]

What id like to know know is... What is the cause of her behaviour?

What difference does it make? The end result is the same, and it is intolerable. Don't look for excuses for her bad behavior; accept it for what it is.

I'm pretty sure Hitler had good days; he probably liked puppy dogs and kitty cats, and he appreciated the arts. Does that mean we should excuse his behavior?

[misombra]

Not much scares me, but Ecstasy would be one of those things. I don't think people realize how dangerous it is. It might not harm your lungs or face, but it will steal your soul. It depletes and stops production of Serotonin, which controls anger, mood, appetite and other important functions.

lol. you're naivety is so cute.

[boobaa]

she doesn't want to be tied down. she wants to be free.

LAND OF THE FREE.


People are always free.


What you meant was: she doesn't want him.

[Yggdrasil]

I hear ya. And i really appreciate all your inputs on this. What id like to know know is... What is the cause of her behaviour? I mean... Is it because she is young? ...if so, is it a typical teenager who loves to party's behaviour? Is it because she doesnt care? If so, how come there are a hundred and one other things that she does that contradict it...like calling me ever other hour to talk and tell me what she is doing, and really being hurt whenever she ever so slightely feels like i am neglecting her...even when i dont mean to. Being overly jealous. All of these things are what a notice, they are her actions. So its not like im being mislead. So what do you think are or is the reason or reasons to her behaviour.

Gosh.. are you still going on about her?

Dump her.. don't try to understand her.. she's immature, that says it all. She may grow up one day.. like 10, 15, 20 years from now...

Meanwhile, find yourself a nice loving girl that respects you.