Breaking the ice with a really quiet girl...

[Off2College]

funny, the first date i ever had in my life started off exactly like you described it. except she didn't make an effort to get near me, it was arranged seating.

my strategy, find a legit excuse to talk to her. then once you do, just start acting like u guys are friends, and before you know it, you will be! its also interesting how the quiet girls aren't really quiet once you get to know them, but they just are in public.

[BlueRaven]

funny, the first date i ever had in my life started off exactly like you described it. except she didn't make an effort to get near me, it was arranged seating.

my strategy, find a legit excuse to talk to her. then once you do, just start acting like u guys are friends, and before you know it, you will be! its also interesting how the quiet girls aren't really quiet once you get to know them, but they just are in public.

OMG. You just described the girl I'm interested in exactly. When I started talking to her she suddenly had a whole bunch of stuff to say. All I had to really do was listen. I found the legit excuse like you said. From what I know already I got a feeling she won't mind me talking to her a bunch more.

[Tone]

Nice work, man.

[BlueRaven]

Nice work, man.

Thanks dude. Can't wait until tomorrow. (That's the next time I've got class with her.)

[message4love]

Two advices for the first step:
(1) group with her in assignment
(2) invite her to join some Department's activities

[Off2College]

Heres my experience with these kinds of situations, they can either be GREAT or Not-as-great. (straight from personal experience)

Great: you start having loads of fun together in class. Since she's shy, you can get ALOt of time alone with her.

Not-so-great: she starts acting cold and u realize she's not interested. haha... f that. but u gain lots of confidence dealing with girls u like. heck. it changed my social personality almost completely (for the better).

good luck with her dood. Hope u have better luck then me.

[BlueRaven]

Thanks man. I hope it goes better for me than it did for you. Yeah, I figure the shy thing will benefit me a lot, in terms of time I can talk to her. And like you said at the very least I can gain some valuable experience dealing with a college girl.

I'll try to keep you updated on my progress.

[Jaood]

Hey guys, im new to this forum as well, and sorry for bringin up an old thread but i just wanted from blueraven what it was that he said when he "broke the ice" because im currently in the same position.

[BlueRaven]

Hey guys, im new to this forum as well, and sorry for bringin up an old thread but i just wanted from blueraven what it was that he said when he "broke the ice" because im currently in the same position.

Well, it was really pretty simple. We had a test that day, so I just made sure I finished the same time as her. Once we got out of the room I asked her how she thought she did, and that led to a good conversation.

Story took a turn for the worse though when I found out that she's 21 years old. I'm just not ready to get involved with someone 3 years older than myself. Hopefully you have better luck.

[pinkpuca84]

oh no....haha...

[Only-virgins]

Well, it was really pretty simple. We had a test that day, so I just made sure I finished the same time as her. Once we got out of the room I asked her how she thought she did, and that led to a good conversation.

I did that a few times, but nothing came out of it. hmmm....

[BlueRaven]

I did that a few times, but nothing came out of it. hmmm....

Ah, you win some and lose some I guess.... and some are just 21. If she wasn't a senior, and didn't smoke, I might not have given up on it so quickly.