Love trouble! Any advice?

[b*tch]

Hey everyone!



But here's the problem. He told me a few days ago that he's going to study in Amsterdam next year. He's probably move there too. It takes about 3 hours to get to Amsterdam by train for me. (In the Netherlands you can't drive a car until you're 18, so there's no other way for me to visit him) Even if I could find the time to travel there while I'm busy studying for my exams, I just don't have the money to go there regularly. I'm too busy at school to get a job and train tickets are pretty expensive!



Alison

Hello Alison,

You are very intense in the relationship which is very understandable because you both are just starting it and really in a "honeymoon stage thing". And now, all of a sudden you will be departed from each other.

Do not worry and put it a burden to yourself on seeing him often and being with him always. Girl, let him worry too much about all this. First of, he's a guy and a man plays a big role in the relationship. Second, he's the one who leaved which he should keep in touch and looked back that he left someone special.

[b*tch]

Another thing that bothers me: people seem to disapprove of our relationship. He's from Sri Lanka, but he's lived here most of his life. I have never thought of this as a problem, but the way people in the street look at us is so incomprehensible! Why is it a problem if he's got a dark skin? People look at me disapprovingly when I hold his hand, my neighbour has stopped greeting me since she saw us together, etc. Why do people make a fuss about this? Is it really just because of his skin? But that's hardly possible, you can't just judge someone because of something like that.. can you?

Alison

Your neighbor and people around you are RACIST!!! Also, maybe it's not common in your place a couple of different ethnicity.

[Alison]

Thinker, that's really nice of you! I guess it's a good thing I'm mature for my age, since my boyfriend is turning 22 next week. But I don't really feel the age difference when I'm with him.
I'll try my best to make it work. Your confidence makes me feel more secure about this relationship. I hope it'll work out well, thanks for your support

B*tch, I guess you're right, it's not just up to me to keep in touch. I talked to him about it and I'm sure he won't forget me so quickly. He seems pretty serious about this too, so I guess this won't be just a summer love. (Yay, lucky me!)

Well, I live in a rather small city, people are a bit old fashioned here. But it's not that uncommon to see mixed couples. I don't really understand this kind of thing at all.