My boyfriend likes to IM women he does not know

[cocobubble]

he's 40 and dating... that should explains.

[bobby71]

Flirting is a form of CHEATING...

[Doc Durian]

he's 40 and dating... that should explains.

How old are you, cocobubble?

From my point of view, 40 isn't old and he probably had at least 1-2 serious relationships since teen-hood. Some people just take more time than others. But then again, I'm in my mid thirties so my self confidence might be interfering with a proper sense of the human existance and how it should progress.

But then again, my Uncle wasn't seriously attached until he hit 40 and happened to meet his soul mate, of sorts, who sported an early 20 something tag. Two of the happiest people together I've ever met and I'm a cynic, mind you.

Age is a number we force on one another, it shouldn't be a social prison sentence though.

[LailaK]

Dump him. You can do better and find someone who will treat you with respect. If the shoe were on the other foot and you were actively flirting with a bunch of dudes he'd be livid.

[sookie6]

Chatting to women only....as you said there's plenty of things to do apart from this particular activity...

It comes across as pervy somehow...I don't know why...maybe because he has a gfriend already...anyway one thing I've learned from internet dating sites is that people who become addicted to them see them as a shoppping device...(I think someone mentioned the shopping side already on this post).
It makes it easier for guys to shop around and see what's there and entertain some fake romance online that boosts their ego...sometimes it's even sexual...

I would not like this at all..

As people said before you are young, you can find someone else with the same credentials...