Why are so many people in their 20s taking so long to grow up?

[Indignant]

Ohhh geeze, because I'm educated and well employed my ass is gonna be dumped? OHHHHHHHHHHHHH miss edcuated Innnndi- she dumped yet?

could someone please translate that educated piece of crap for me?

[girl68]

could someone please translate that educated piece of crap for me?

I told you my story you called it bullshit. What SHOULD I have inferred? IF you were talking about my claim that it's now safer generally to have children later you should have quoted that and called THAT bullshit; instead you called my whole post bullshit.

Okay wait I didn't mention school at the point you said bullshit. However by my saying happy old (educated) wife that persues her school to get a decent career vs a young stupid kid who never went to school and popped out kids at a young age is the perference of my bf.

[dewilliams2]

I'm 23...I see no reason to step on the gas for several reasons. For one it takes longer to really get into careers now. When my parents were my age they could find a factory job and were supposed to be set for life. Now I'm not talking about a job...I'm talking about a career. It takes longer to get into one of those these days. If you really want to achieve something you could be 26-30 before you even really get going in your field.

As for kids and marriage...well once again no hurry...whats another few years? I also blame this on the previous generation as well...I think enough of my generation have watched marriage fail and divorce skyrocket on an epic scale. We are more hesitant. That coupled with the increase in birth control use means less baby makin.

I mean I could be wrong, these are just how I look at things from my perspective.

Oh and I can also say I prefer an intelligent woman. I lose all interest in a woman who is just outright ignorant or stupid....regardless of what she looks like. I have walked away from several pretty girls because they were just half retarded.

[lahnnabell]

Geez, ladies, chill. Why does everyone start launching into personal attacks when there is one disagreement? It looks really silly when you're boasting maturity in a very childish way.

[hello1]

F u being in your twenties rock. I'm 20 and yeah 20s about learning what you want in life

[dewilliams2]

Geez, ladies, chill. Why does everyone start launching into personal attacks when there is one disagreement? It looks really silly when you're boasting maturity in a very childish way.

Because '**** you' is easier to say than something with substance and a point.

[VincenzoG91]

One factor is the insane cost of a college education these days. Combined with the bad job market for graduates these last two years, and it's no surprise that 20-somethings are still dependent on their parents. I didn't graduate with much debt, but I did start out in a bad job market, followed by another recession a few years later. So I ended up changing jobs on an annual basis throughout my 20s. However, I did move out on my own when I was 19, and have never moved back in with my family. They did help me out financially a few times here and there, and paid for 25% of my college education. I paid the rest, through a combination of scholarship, pell grant, work study jobs and savings, but that was before tuition spiraled out of control. My girlfriend will finish her bachelors degree next spring, with about $50K in student loan debt. She won't go to law school unless she qualifies for a certain scholarship, because the law school she wants to attend would cost another $90K.

[girl68]

whoa whoa whoa no one threw an F bomb here. I made an intital mistake and corrected it. She still called it bullshit though- with no real point to back it up. I'm still curious as to why my old happy educated ass is going to get dumped in 10 years.

[dewilliams2]

whoa whoa whoa no one threw an F bomb here. I made an intital mistake and corrected it. She still called it bullshit though- with no real point to back it up. I'm still curious as to why my old happy educated ass is going to get dumped in 10 years.

I was just making a general point about how conversations can quickly deteriorate into personal attacks because people don't like to think and come up with a logical argument. I wasn't talkin specifically about the two of you...more of a general statement.

[vashti]

I'm 23...I see no reason to step on the gas for several reasons. For one it takes longer to really get into careers now.

Eh, that's what every generation of 20 year olds says.

But I don't think that is what indig meant. I mean, you all have to admit that you (in large part) remain dependent on your parent's income for ridiculously long periods of time, live at home, spend tons of time trying to "get to know" yourselves. These are actually luxuries that weren't afforded to people your age even 20-30 years ago.

[hurt_confuzd]

ok, every1 knos that guys > girls, lol. and like, 20 years olds are totall ysuperior to teh rest of you.

ppl in there 40s are jus stoopid.

lol.

[Indignant]

I'm 23...I see no reason to step on the gas for several reasons. For one it takes longer to really get into careers now. When my parents were my age they could find a factory job and were supposed to be set for life. Now I'm not talking about a job...I'm talking about a career. It takes longer to get into one of those these days. If you really want to achieve something you could be 26-30 before you even really get going in your field.

As for kids and marriage...well once again no hurry...whats another few years? I also blame this on the previous generation as well...I think enough of my generation have watched marriage fail and divorce skyrocket on an epic scale. We are more hesitant. That coupled with the increase in birth control use means less baby makin.

I mean I could be wrong, these are just how I look at things from my perspective.

Oh and I can also say I prefer an intelligent woman. I lose all interest in a woman who is just outright ignorant or stupid....regardless of what she looks like. I have walked away from several pretty girls because they were just half retarded.

fine. but when you are 30, would you rather be with an educated 25 year old or 35 year old?

[girl68]

Are you saying that a 35 year old is worthless compared with a 25 year old with the same education? How old are you?

[dewilliams2]

Eh, that's what every generation of 20 year olds says.

But I don't think that is what indig meant. I mean, you all have to admit that you (in large part) remain dependent on your parent's income for ridiculously long periods of time, live at home, spend tons of time trying to "get to know" yourselves. These are actually luxuries that weren't afforded to people your age even 20-30 years ago.

I moved out at 19 but my parents lived close to campus and it made financial sense....plus BSU makes all freshman either live at home or live on campus. I didn't want to live in a dorm. My parents did pick up 40% of my tuition. I'm not saying its not different from previous generations...but so is the world. Therefore if the world has changed so is the way we will approach it....it does take longer to get into a career outside of flipping burgers.

[lahnnabell]

It's not just about being educated though. Formal education means nothing if you're not doing anything with it. girl is talking about being able to use her education to push her further than she would normally be able to go in her desired field because that is her goal. Stopping to have a family right now will most likely only impede her personal goals. It is fortunate for her that the man in her life agrees and wants to help her pursue these goals without setting limitations of expectations of her.