basilandthyme: you are right: there are many more models out there. I don't know if they have Life Ring where you are, but I do know that AA is international. Ann
basilandthyme: you are right: there are many more models out there. I don't know if they have Life Ring where you are, but I do know that AA is international. Ann
Ann
I dont think the OP has an alcohol problem lol but then again Im from Ireland and its the norm for people here to go out and get drunk 2 or 3 times a month. Binge drinking is considered okay as long as your not doing it every day. Its the same in the UK.
I dont think its something you should break up over. All my friends have had drunken arguments with their partners at some point. I think it happens to everyone but you should just try to cut back a little if it causes this much hassle.
he commentsShe phoned me last night in tears saying she is so confused as she still lives and has valor of feelings for me but can't forgive what happendWe met up today so I could give the last of her stuff back. When she stepped of the train we had a big hug and I couldn't stop crying. We went and talked for a few hours but she wouldn't change her mind. She kept saying that she would never forgive herself if it happens again.�When we went to the station it was horrible. We cuddled and held hands and I pleaded with her not to go but she said she had to as she had to do this for herself. We hugged til the train was leaving and then i stood paralysed as we both gazed through the window crying. I stood and watched her slowly leave and now I'm utterly devastated. I can't stop crying. She Txt me straight away saying she hopes I'm OK and to take care. She also Txt me, u were really nasty, I don't know how to overcome the experience but I can tell you I will try. This was in response to my Txt to not give up on usI'm so devastated as I truly thought she was my soul mate
Sadfrog: I really feel for you. Again, your GF has some firm boundaries that she is respecting. I do believe in the disease model of addiction. I hope you get help. Honestly, your situation is the negative and awful, and painful consequence for being a mean drunk. You cannot let that happen again. Once a couple has a drunken argument, getting drunk and arguing goes into the, "OK Coral." There was no consequence for bad behavior, so it is deemed acceptable......but, certainly, not preferred. But your ex, didn't put your behavior in the, "OK Coral." She said, "absolutely not an option." And Sadfrog, you have to believe her, and grieve your loss. It is true, that this situation doesn't sound like it's all your fault, but YOU get the consequences. If writing on the Forum helps you, keep doing so. Look at how many supporters you have here! Ann
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Ann
Thank you everyone for your help when i was feeling really confused. Everything has worked out thankfully and we are back together. Things are back to being so amazing and I really think we are so good together. I will never forget that horrible night, mainly to ensure it doesn't happen again. I never want to lose the love of my life again.
Good luck![]()