Originally Posted by
Elven Lied
I've had the same talk with my bf. He feels the same way you do. I never saw it that way before, because he never said anything to me. I just assumed that he didn't say anything, everything was fine, and that sex was over. I was happy, I though he was happy, so everything was ok.
Not at all. He would get pissed off inside, and ready to cry. He told me he felt like this because he knew he could just say, "hey, what about me?", so he had to wait until "I" would figure it out, which would never happen, then he would have to try and forget about it.
He told me though, I finally forced it out of him. And it really wasn't that bad. You guys have to understand. Yes, fine, there's this whole issue that guys are not supposed to ask for more than they already get from sex, but it's really not true. Women ask for more all the time, nothing is ever enough, so why should men just accept things as they are?
Tell your gf how you feel during sex, and when she does that to you. There's nothing more that she wants to do, but to make you happy, especially during sex. Don't think of it as being selfish. You're only asking for what makes you feel good, not anything irrational. My bf thought it would be selfish of him to tell me that he didn't enjoy sex b/w us, and that if he told me, I would offended and never talk to him again.
Clearly not what happened. We talked, I more than listened, and we're working it out. I think the problem that guys have is that they find it really hard to be open about sex. I know I don't have this problem at all. If I want anything from my bf, I won't think twice about telling him.