You made a mistake to be with this guy, that's ok everybody makes mistakes.
But, you don't "talk" to these kind of people, you just leave them for good. And if they insist on bugging you, you put a bullet through their little brain until their eyes pop out.
He has no consideration for you or your family whatsoever, there's no secret formula to cure this guy.
Move on, you sound like a nice girl and deserve much better I'm sure.
"E ao imenso e possível oceano
Ensinam estas Quinas, que aqui vês,
Que o mar com fim será grego ou romano:
O mar sem fim é português."