just friends.

[Cain]

I said uglies have hot friends, thus the rule could be broken.

[Bo]

I said uglies have hot friends, thus the rule could be broken.

ok so basically u befriend the uglies so that u can get to the hot ones?...lol

[Bo]

he only wanted one thing.

i love that song. and it's true. eh i guess i really do need to just forget about m.

[TheTooya]

although i think that's kinda true, i know men out there who truly enjoy the company of women, whether they want to have sex with them or not.

I second this. A good chunk of my friends are girls, and I enjoy hanging out with them. I make friends with attractive girls and ugly girls alike, and trust me, I do not want to **** the uglies :p

I befriend girls without any intention of wanting to **** them or their friends (most of the time at least :p)

But to Bos point, you may not find the fact you guys had sex to be awkward, he may. If there is any possible thread of "chance" in the back of his mind, then you can't really be friends. He'll still get jealous, insecure, etc.

It can happen, just not as likely... "/

[Cain]

Fine.

Let me rephrase.

Guys want to **** the friends they find attractive.

So, if he doesn't want to **** you, then he doesn't find you attractive.

[Bo]

I second this. A good chunk of my friends are girls, and I enjoy hanging out with them. I make friends with attractive girls and ugly girls alike, and trust me, I do not want to **** the uglies :p

I befriend girls without any intention of wanting to **** them or their friends (most of the time at least :p)

But to Bos point, you may not find the fact you guys had sex to be awkward, he may. If there is any possible thread of "chance" in the back of his mind, then you can't really be friends. He'll still get jealous, insecure, etc.

It can happen, just not as likely... "/

tooya, i don't really get what that means. please elaborate a little. I don't know if he finds it awkward, maybe i should ask. The thing is i don't know if i've mentioned this but we've never really discussed it. We hang out and it just never comes up, or we would mess around again and it still doesn't come up. But i'm almost sure that he doesn't have feelings for me like that.

[Bo]

Fine.

Let me rephrase.

Guys want to **** the friends they find attractive.

So, if he doesn't want to **** you, then he doesn't find you attractive.

well i think this might call for an investigation. lol. jk. but i guess it's true to some extent. one of my really close guy friends actually stopped talking to me for a while because he started to have feeling for me but realized that i care too much about my bf. So i guess he found me attractive since he would tell me i was beautiful. I don't know though, i don't have a lot of friend overall but i have a few VERY close friends. others are basically just aqquaintances.

[Bo]

erghhh misspelling things bothers me. lol.

[Cain]

tooya, i don't really get what that means. please elaborate a little. I don't know if he finds it awkward, maybe i should ask. The thing is i don't know if i've mentioned this but we've never really discussed it. We hang out and it just never comes up, or we would mess around again and it still doesn't come up. But i'm almost sure that he doesn't have feelings for me like that.

He doesn't have to have feelings for you in order to get jealous. If he wants to **** you, he could be jealous knowing that he isn't but another guy is. It has nothing to do with him having feelings for you.

[Bo]

He doesn't have to have feelings for you in order to get jealous. If he wants to **** you, he could be jealous knowing that he isn't but another guy is. It has nothing to do with him having feelings for you.

ok so what you two are saying is m could get jealous whether or not he has feelings for me? M is a not a jealous person at all though. He probably only gets jealous if it's his gf and even then he doesn't really get jealous.

[Cain]

Why do you keep trying to justify your friendship with him? He wants to **** you. He's not the only guy in the world for you to be friends with. What's the big deal?

[Bo]

Because i care about him as a friend. I get that there are other guys, for one there are a lot of reasons why i want to be friends with him. one being that he's a really cool guy and he's always honest with me. I have a hard time getting to know other ppl, because i have a lot of trust issues which holds me back from getting to know others. i like sticking with what i have.

[IndiReloaded]

Are you sure you're not keeping him around as a PlanB? Sure sounds like to me.

[Cain]

Because i care about him as a friend. I get that there are other guys, for one there are a lot of reasons why i want to be friends with him. one being that he's a really cool guy and he's always honest with me. I have a hard time getting to know other ppl, because i have a lot of trust issues which holds me back from getting to know others. i like sticking with what i have.

This would start to annoy me if I was your bf. You're fighting so hard to keep a friendship that has already crossed that friendship line. Once you cross it, you can't just go back. The sexual tension is still there for one of you.

Maybe you should work on fixing your trust issues so that you can make new friends, presumably ones that you haven't had sex with.

[Bo]

Are you sure you're not keeping him around as a PlanB? Sure sounds like to me.

neh definitely not plan b.
for one my relationship with my bf is not going anywhere anytime soon. two m and i don't have feelings for each other. And even if my bf and i broke, m and i would never be in a relationship regardless.