Hello everyone, I would really appreciate some advice and help on this one
I was made redundant a couple of months before I met my boyfriend, and we have now been together for 3 months and i still am not working ( I hate not working!). My issue is that I dont know how to handle this situation i seem to be in! Basically im not working and dont have much money but my other half seems to take me for granted. He never pays for anything and expects me to pay all the time!! when we buy food or get a take away or go out to get a bottle of wine he never reaches for his wallet! Now i believe that everything should be 50/50 in a relationship but i'm not working and he works and makes a pretty good salary! Im really struggling here trying to cope with the limited amount of money I have and for example spent about £50 this weekend on food/drink for us both and he knows that my money needed to last me for the next 2 weeks.
He stays at mine the whole weekend and asks for tea and breakfast in the morning in bed he uses my hot water and never does little things like take his plate and put it in the dishwasher just expects me to do it, he eats all my food never brings anything round like food/drink. He just expects me to wait on him hand and foot! For example this weekend, we went back to his house to pick up some DVD's we then went to the shopping centre because he needed to get a book for work, then we got back to my house and he said he was hungry and then i had to cook for him and i didn't have anything in the fridge that was quick and easy and because i didn't want to seem rude i cooked him one of my sisters ready made meals that she bought but the point is that he had plenty of chances to grab a bite to eat back at his house or in town and he waited till he got back to mine to eat almost like he takes me for granted!
Okay am I being rude or is he taking me for a mug? What should I do because I feel like im his weekend servant! I joke about with him saying "oh you take me for granted and you dont know how lucky you are to have someone who cooks for you and stuff" but he doest seem to grasp what im saying! He lives with his mum and she does everything for him. she brings him tea in the morning, does his washing and ALL the house work even though hes 28. I never get invited round his house and when i asked if I could go over to his one night a few weeks back he sighed and got all funny with me saying he wont be able to cook for me and I would have to pick up a take away or eat before i came round he made such a big deal about it i said dont worry just come over to mine.
Oh and sometimes i say to him eat before you come over because i might of had a big lunch or not hunrey that day and he ALWAYS guilt trips me into cooking for him still, like he will say "i only had a sandwich for dinner, im really hungry what can u cook me"? this really winds me up!
Please someone help me! what shall i do!?!?!
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