To make a long story short - Last summer I fell in love with a guy named Josh. I'd had my long string of "bad boys," but he was the good, solid, loyal marriage-material guy. Financially set, good career, and he knew how to treat a woman right. But he didn't want to make a commitment. Soon after, he deployed to Afghanistan, and I deployed too, to a different location. So we went almost a year without seeing each other. When we met up again, our friendship fell right back into place like no time had even passed - except now he wanted a real relationship, and I was over him.
I realized he'd never make me happy in a marriage because he never liked to travel, get away for a weekend, have fun, etc. My biggest joy in life is getting out of town for an adventure, even if it's just a 2 day ski trip to the mountains. But he wants nothing to do with any of that. I invite him out to social events time and time again, but he just stays home. So I decided to go out of town for the weekend with a different guy - just for someone to go with. Josh of course, is jealous, and now suddenly he says he's willing to go places with me to make me happy. It's not his thing, but he'll tag along so I dont wind up with some other guy. But I feel like 1) He lost his chance, and 2) He should want to go with me because he ENJOYS those things - not because of jealousy. Am I being too hard on him?