Bit of a moot point seeing as I ended it back in May but I'm trying to let go of the ex and I keep struggling with this. So please don;t just respond it's over so forget it because I already know that but I just want to make some sense of this.
When I broke up with her it was because I found out she had a dating profile live for the last 3 months we were together. We were together close to 18 Months but things had hit a rough patch.
When I asked her why she had done it, she said because things were difficult between us at the time and she then said she just didn't have that feeling of being in love. She had felt it before but she doesn't feel it now and hasn't really since we were together. She was desperately trying to find it because she did want to be with me.
Anyway she sent me a letter the following week saying that she did love me but just didn't have that feeling of being in love.
So my question is I guess.
How can you love someone, or say that you love someone without ever having the feeling of being in love with them.
Logic say's to me you would have to have fallen in love with them in the first place to be able to love them.
Or is this a chick thing because I don't understand how she can say she loved me but never had the feeling of being in love, doesn't make sense. I can understand her saying she was in love with but her feelings changed but that's different. She is saying she never felt it. But she still loved me.
She had plenty of opportunity to let me go if she wasn't feeling in love with me, I even asked her back in January to let me go but she said she did want to be with me and for the relationship to continue because she loved me (Ok I figured that was just to keep me on the hook) but even now she still wants to keep in touch with me and I don't understand why.
Would appreciate your thoughts