Okay so I've been with a girl for about a year now, I love her very much and care for her a good deal, we live together and have done so for about 8 months already, admittedly we moved in quite quickly but we got an offer we couldn't refuse so to speak.
I like to think our relationship is good, we do lots together, always going out and getting out and about, have taken a couple of holidays together and we rarely argue.
I am an affectionate person, am not shy about speaking my mind and saying how I feel and I pride myself on trying to be the good boyfriend. I support her with her work and have always managed to be there for her when she's needed or asked me to be. I do all the little things that she tells me she likes and appreciates.
Before we'd met, she'd been in a a three year relationship with a guy she had adored and had presumed was her one. He broke up with her very suddenly and literally was out of her life within 3 days, though he did make a re-appearance a couple of weeks later and the result of that was he got her hopes up and then left again. Suffice to say she was destroyed. (This is what she has told me for the record, not that I'm saying I don't believe her, but just to clarify)
She'd told herself that she'd be single for at least a year and then see where she was at then.
6 months after coming out of that relationship, she met me.
The problem is, and perhaps i'm reading into something that I needn't be. But she's worrying aloud about not being a good girlfriend and that, she's not in a position where she's 'properly fallen for me'. She tells me she loves me and has made no attempt to end things, but when she talks about us, she says she doesn't know when she's going to be in that place again. She says she wants to be, that she loves me a lot and she worries about her being not as involved and will it make me leave and that she could understand if I wanted to,
What I've told her is that I get where she is (my ex of 4 years cheated on me and left overnight - albeit that was now 4 or so years ago itself), that I've been there and that I've no expectations of anything, that she is free to take her time. I remind her I love her and that she makes me feel happy and that frankly, right now, where we are at is good, we have fun, we enjoy life and aside from when we talk about this particular subject we're fine.
So realistically, I don't what to do. Do i do anything at all?? It's a very frustrating subject because as time goes by, it does get more frustrating. I don't ask anything of her but who doesn't like to hear their partner remind them that they love them? She tells me off her own back, but its somewhat infrequent. So yes, this is my situation, very confused and after puzzling on it for sometime, deciding to ask total strangers for advice!!! Anything is appreciated, thanks.