Hey guys this is my first post, but I’ve been reading on here for a while.
Well it all starts from almost exactly this time last year when I got together with a girl. I’m 18 and she’s 16, but she’s very mature for her age and I don’t even realize that we have a two year age gap. Anyway I got together with her and we lasted for almost exactly 6 months when I broke up with her. Towards the end of the relationship I became very uninterested and became distant, and I know the break up hurt her a lot.
After a couple of months passed we started to regularly hang out again as friends and things we’re great. I began to become attracted to her again but needed to make sure of my feelings before I told her so I didn’t mess her around. After a month of hanging out and a few spontaneous make out sessions I went to her house before school one morning and told her that I wanted to be back together with her. Her initial response was very cautious, she still had feelings for me but didn’t want to set herself up to be hurt massively again as she had just gotten to the stage where she was okay with not being with me. We ended up skipping school and spending the whole day together, and even ended up having sex for the first time (for both of us). Anyway we slowly got back into it and she began to trust me and we told each other we loved each other.
About this time last week things between us were the best they had ever been (its been three months since I said I wanted her back), we loved each other and were spending a lot of time together. Now the problem is she has depression, she has for years, she has just gone onto medication and she got really good for a couple weeks and has now gone downhill including losing her sex drive. She also began to do things out of character, on Saturday night she kissed another guy (very, VERY much not who she is) and rang me up just after crying on the phone and apologizing frantically. I got angry and told her I don’t know who she is anymore. Anyway we hung out Sunday and things were pretty good, and then last night she said she wanted to not be together for a while because she needs to sort herself out and become happy. Today we saw each other at school a few times and we’ve both just been so miserable and she still kissed me and held my hand when she saw me. We have both said we really don’t want this to be the end and we love each other very much.
My dilemma is should I give her this space and time apart because she needs it, or is she just trying to push me away to protect me?
And where do I draw the line between being there and supporting her and giving her space?
I really don’t know what to do, I’m so scarred we’re going to grow apart and never get back together and I don’t want that to happen because I truly love her more than I ever thought possible.