A little background,
About a month ago my wife tells me there is someone else. Tells me just flirting and hugging after walking to the parking lot. Fine, no big deal just a little taken aback and upset by it but after a couple days its fine, she knows I do this with some friends who are girls, I don't consider it cheating and I have no reason to believe she'd lie about it. She does tell me that he's told her he wishes they could be together( He is married with kids), and that leaves me a little uneasy though as that is a bit more than flirting. They've known each other2-3 months. We talk about it, both agree we need to communicate better and she says they are just friends. We both agree that we should see a marriage counselor to see about improving our relationsihp.
A couple normal weeks go by until one night when I could tell she was lying about who she was talking to on the phone but she insisted on it that it was her sister, but the way she acted was otherwise. I check the phone number online and it wasn't her sister. I feel bad for going behind her back and checking but I KNEW she was lying and she was, she was talking that guy along with texting him 10-20 times a day. She insists she wants to work it out with me and they are friends.
They work together and still text after work. This week she tells me she they went out after work for coffee and he invites her to a hockey game, and she says shes going to go if he has the extra ticket. She said it would just be the two of them. We've been to 1 hockey game together and she was meh about it, wasn't crazy about it but had fun. She barely watches a whole game on TV with me. I basically go off the deep end. Don't know what to say. Hurt. Angry. I tell her I feel like she can't be committed to working it out our relationship AND do this stuff with this guy. So now she's told him she isn't going to go with him and shes acting sad and down, because she "wants to go to the hockey game with him". Now I feel bad kind of because I feel like THAT guy that won't let his wife out, but this is beyond friends in my opinion.
Am I out of line for feeling this way about her going out with this guy at this stage?