Any advice would be gratefully received.
Dated a girl for 4 months. We are both in our early 30s and in late November she all of a sudden told me she was confused about what she wanted and that we shouldnstop seeing eachbother. Up to then things seemed good but we never really talked about them, just went with the flow. There was no big plans and we met probably once or twice every week.
So i took time out, hurt but willing to be open to going back to her if i still felt strongly for her. And i did and contacted her two weeks ago to go for a drink. We did and had a great laugh and were comfortable straightaway. She was sorry that she reacted so quickly and i told her how i feltband asked her to consider giving things another go. She told me she really liked me but had been confused.
So we had coffee this morning. She doesnt want to pick up where we left off. I never thought we could. She wants to take things slow, enjoy each others company and see. I really like her and i am willing to be patient. She says she really likes me but is still confused. I have told her that i will work with her but that i am not willing to be used as a fallback option if it is a case that she simply thinks she can do better. She acknowledges this is fair enough. She knows i want more than friendship.
So now I am confused. I want to work with her to give this a shot and have fun. We have agreed to be positive and open minded. My question is how to i give this a chance without crowding her? How do i respect boundaries and help things develop without pressuring her. Any thoughts on the whole situation would be gratefully accepted